Anyone feel like me ?

dadindoors · Newbie User Joined: May 10, 2006 Posts: 5

Hi,

I've only just realised that a have a bad social anxiety problem. Some days, like today, l can hardly bear to go out the house and the more l think about it the worse l feel.
Is that ususally the case when you first admit you have this problem ?l wonder.
I'd like to know that other people have felt, or feel ,the same cos l think my biggest problem is feeling so different to everyone else. so odd and alone.
I'd really apprecaite anyone saying hi.

Ta Sad

Bob

dzerklis · Advanced User Joined: Jan 06, 2006 Posts: 434

hey, i think most of us have felt this way, it will sound trite but maybe try to find some distractions, like example reading positive affirmations.

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Danfalc · Posted: Thu May 11, 2006 8:37 am Post subject:

Hiya Bob welcome to the site if you havnt already been welcomed. Smile

Social anxiety affects everyone differently.. some people only have it in certain situations some people have it in every situation all the time full stop.But a lot of people on here will definatley relate and feel the same as you do.

As for me.. most days i cant bear to go out the house.. my anxiety kicks off as soon as i go through my door most days and just gets really worse depending on where i have to go, to be honest normaly i dont go out unless i have to like pay bills or somthing.(but i am starting to have the odd good day where i can get myself out when i dont have to and sometimes feel ok).And yeah if you sit and think an dwell on it it gets ya down.

So you really arnt on your own Bob i think everyone on here will be able to relate and understand what your going through.And i know its hard... but try not to put yourself down thinking your odd or weird.. because that only adds to the negative feelings and your not.. you have a medical problem.

Septor · Elite User Joined: Dec 15, 2005 Posts: 1033

smeghead · Newbie User Joined: May 24, 2006 Posts: 5

i know wot u mean about leaving the house bearly leave the house. I've benn stayin at my aunts house for about 4 weeks because i feel more relaxed here but sometimes i cant go out with out having a drink (alcholic) first im new and these chat rooms and forums really help
its just nice to know ur not the only one GOOD LUCK!!!

shedevilaj · Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 12:57 pm Post subject:

Hiya all ive been reading this forum for quite a while and thought i would have a say i know how u feel bob and most of you its hard to explain to someone who doesnt know what your going through no one knows unless they have sufered it and when u explain it to someone they think ya being daft and its nothing to worry about ive had my social anxiety for 11 years since i was 25 i couldnt go through the door at all and the more u force ya self the worse u get ive been to see a counsellor but once a fornight for a hour was no good for me i mean your in a no win situation u want to go out so much and do things like me with me 3 children but when it comes down to it you cant do it and that gets ya down and depressed i haVE BEEN on pills for years anti depresants and diazepam etc they just make me feel drowsy and sleepy all the time so i came off some of them.. now a days i live my life not to the full but to the best that i am able to do i havent worked for 17 years but always had a bloke to take care of me really and had to rely on a bloke when sometimes i wanted to be on me own but how could i live on me own i couldnt and wouldnt be able to do it im to scared and frightened because i would have to get a job and socialise with people and i cant do that at all its like when i get invited to parties i cant go but the kids want to go so im depriving them of that pleasure which isnt fair and i know it isnt and i feel so gutted that i hate my self. anyway im glad i found this site i felt really lonely if anyone would like to add me to messenger or email me please do so would like to make some friends hugs mandi xxx Smile

jeangidman@hotmail.com

Rickvalet · Newbie User Joined: Jun 07, 2006 Posts: 4

Hi,

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Take care

lilz · Newbie User Joined: Jun 22, 2006 Posts: 1

Hi, I am pretty sure I hav social phobia. I am frightened of specific situations. For example today i was going to join a new drama group alone with no friends accompanying me, however when i arrived i saw a big group of 'chav' like boys hanging around outside and i was afraid to go on i was so afraid i almost started breaking down crying, I was panicking and was getting so frantic i was basicly screaming at my mum to turn the car around. Another example today i was walking to the busstop and... a man was behind me getting into his car and i walked infront of him and i was so paranoid i thought he was going to attack me and he was just innocently standing there not suspicious at all, and i had imagined an illusion in my mind. When i thought he was going to attack me i jumped in my own skin. I cant describe the feeling i felt at that point it was like my heart stopped beating. To simplify my fear -- I am affraid of approaching large gangs of boys and walking outside alone. It gets to a stage when i want to cry and break down because i am so scared, is it social phobia i need a name for it that explains my feelings. Is there anyone that can relate to my emotions please help me i need someones support...

Septor · Elite User Joined: Dec 15, 2005 Posts: 1033

I could be completely wrong and i'm just guessing from what you have said in your post.So don't hold me to it.

I'm not sure if it is social phobia lilz.Have you suffered traumatic experience in the past because of male in your life?I ask that because it sound like you are afraid of them physically hurting you more then of them judging you.I'm not sure if that would be social phobia because social phobia has more to do with being afraid of being judged by people then physically hurt by them.

I think best course of action would be is to go see a therapist or counselor and see if you can get to the heart of the problem.Work out some of those feeling that you are having.What ever it is,it must be really hard for you to handle Sad

.Good luck

lifes_to_long · Intermediate User Joined: Jun 29, 2006 Posts: 192

yeh lilz I get the same thing I reckon its all related, I think its cuz I have really low confidence I remember being in the car earlier and i could feel my anx coming on so i thought im gunna try act and pretend to myself that i am a confident person and that panic really calmed down cus i wasnt focusing on the people around me but myself and my persona I dont normally feel like I can handle the situation so it scares me kinda like doing an exam paper without revising or having the physcological tools to deal with it but just alot more intense.I hope this has helped, your not alone trust me and try not to feel guilty which is somethink I've done far to much and has just made it worse.good luck.oli