[quote="crazyfairyx"]I think love is feeling able to be yourself, with all your quirks and feel comfortable knowing that you are liked and cared about regardless, and accepting your partner's quirks and faults, and even if they get on your nerves sometimes, you find them endearing.
Love for me is friendship, compassion, worrying about each other, wanting each other to be happy and taking care of each other. Love isn't perfect, it's not all hearts and flowers, and I don't think you can know if you love someone until you go through bad times together and still stay strong in the relationship. Most couples can survive in a happy relationship where things go well, it's love that keeps couples together during the bad times, staying together, supporting each other, being each others' shoulder to cry on, and being happy together when the good times return ......hey crazyfairy....i agree with you....love is not a quote or simply a feeling....it's about ....wondering how that other person is doing in the back of your mind all day....sharing the load...working together...being crazy about seeing eachother at the end of a long day...supporting eachother when things are tough....that kind of stuff...that's what i hope for anyway
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Posted: Tue May 02, 2006 8:04 pm Post subject:
corrinaelizabeth wrote:
love is lust thats all ive got 2 say on this matter lol
I kind of agree with you in some respects, I mean one huge difference between friends and couples is lust, but lust doesn't last so it seems logical that love comprises more than just lust. I guess everyone sees it differently though, love isn't something definitive, it's defined by the individual
love is lust thats all ive got 2 say on this matter lol
Love is lust+friendship+compassion+reciprocal understanding and support etc... (all the other things that were listed)
I am not being idealistic or romantic, but it seems just obvious to me, out of personal experience. Besides, romantic love makes perfect evolutionary sense: raising kids requires more long term commitment than just the amount due to "lust", which you can feel for many people everyday.
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What is love?! i think is a big nothing
Love is relative. I really wonder if love exist coz i feel is so hard to be loved by someone. Nobody love me just because i simply exist. They "love" me just if i do things that they expect me to do. Is so sad.
I think if i want my parents to love me i should be like they wish they child to be, i got to perfect in their eyes and to do just the right things to make they be proud of me or something. If i don't do that i'm sure they will stop love me.
If i want that my boyfriend to love me i have to try to be beautiful, to be perfect in his eyes, to give him love back, to keep the relation fresh and many other things that will make him stil like me and not to looking for other girls that fit with his ideal of woman.
If i want my friends like me and "love" me... some of them are my clasmattes so i should help them at school coz if i'm stupid and don't study they will won't wanna be my friends anymore and go out with me coz they have other kind of friends for partyes and they thon't need me and i alsou have to try to be funny and a good listener or else for keeping my few friends.
And i guess people need to be loved by just this persons like familly, gf/bf and their friends. But is so hard to make those people start loving you and keep their love for you ...that make me feel so lonely and make me think that love even exist and that i have to do so many things to not lose the love i owned.
Nobody will love me if i will do mistakes. There are so many people on this planet...to many.. why would anybody want to love me?! i'm so usual i got nothing special. This thing drive me crazy. I will never be really loved ... never if i will do something that they ( people who i care about and that i love) don't like they will live me and they will run after other people that seems to fit with their expectations.
Does someone really love somebodyelse in that world? Does somebody love himself? DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF? If you don't love yourself how can you love somebody else or how can sombody loves you ?! CAN"T! Do i really love someone? Coz love is not in the past love have to be by me in future too if is really love - love don't have end. Love should be forever.
There is no true love. LOVE IS AN ILLUSION, CHIMERA, MIRAGE, MYTH ..... Love is not at all what i think should be. Pure true love doesn't exist!!! Allways love will be mixed with other bad feelings like hate. Will be mixed with compassion, lust, contempt, pride, jealousy , friendship, obligation, fear ......no true pure love at all
While hate will exist love will be dirty coz hate cancel the love. And hapiness is an illusion too and is canceled by unhapyness. And life is canceled by dead. Nothing is pure in this world. There are just f*** odds and ends by evil and good and that's why people are so confused and shy and SP/SA exist . Is all just a big fight and we have to win that fight somehow. And i'm gonna fight to the end even if i will gonna be lonelly even if nobody will love me i will try again and again to live this life somehow and to find what is love and hapiness and why i do exist !
I'm not even expect that my post to be readed to the end by anybody ... i'm mad
love you all ....somehow and sorry for my post if is weird or bad and too big and with no meaning
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