What qualities men/guys like in their soulmate?

black_mamba · Posted: Thu Jun 15, 2006 12:35 pm Post subject:

Not all relationships need to be longterm/mainstream/typical. Wink

iamantisocial · Newbie User Joined: Jun 11, 2006 Posts: 72

lonley1 · Posted: Thu Jun 15, 2006 2:43 pm Post subject:

imo you either mesh or you don't simple. Smile

the_sullen · Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 5:47 pm Post subject:

a sense of humor, some understanding and a whole heap of issues. like me.

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loneEAGLE · Posted: Mon Jun 19, 2006 10:38 pm Post subject:

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LittleMissMuffet · Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 1:23 pm Post subject:

Hey Quixote,

I couldn't resist putting my 2 cents worth into what you said about men having a greater tendency to cheat whilst expecting women to be faithful.
Reminds me of that limerick: 'Higammus Biggamus, men are polygamous; Higgamous, hoggamous, women monogamous'
...only spelt correctly. Wink

What do I think?
...I think that it is one thing to make an observation about a percentage of society's attitudes towards sexuality, and an entirely different thing to pin-point the precise dynamics underlying human sexuality -of which, incidentally, I consider my self an expert on!! Very Happy

Basically, what I think you were pointing out was a trend that exists to some degree that is probably also in part based on culture (eg: compare Italian men to German men, and they say that the former have more mistresses). ...But it is also really a question of when the scales tip and it goes the other way. ...for example, observe the shift in sexual attitudes that has happened probably largely as a result of the internet. Internet pornography -I prefer the term 'erotica' - has in some ways done more for female sexual liberation than the movements in the 70s, and of course, in other ways it has done less!! (for exmple, I see the adds on a regular basis teaching - Exclamation

- Australians that violence towards women is unacceptable) ....but one thing that this (the internet and modern life) has done is change people's ideas about women and sex. It's no longer that women are seen as not liking sex. ...whereas I think that this underlying attitude and perception that women don't really enjoy sex and that sex has to do with power, makes people then treat it as such.

To make a long and complicated story short, I've read that up to a certain point women tend to be sexually 'unenthusiatic' and men 'enthusiastic', and then past a certain point this is completely reversed. Kind of like one is the mirror, inside-out version of the other.

So what you observe is an attitude that does to some extent exist in society and in peoples' minds, but it isn't the underlying truth just as it isn't the thought behind the thought. ...A truth, by the way, that I happen to be very sure about. Laughing

freakme · Newbie User Joined: Nov 20, 2006 Posts: 7

I would like him to be someone understanding and doesn't judge me too quick . Caring & funny would be good too.

applesewer · Posted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 7:42 pm Post subject:

What qualities would I look for in a girl? Well, I’m no expert, I’ve only ever had one girlfriend, but I think for me to marry a girl, I think she’d have to understand me, and for me to understand her, and for us to be on the same wavelength…so there’s no tension when we chat…so like, just someone I can be best mates with really. I don’t think I mind how messed up she is, cause I’m pretty messed up myself, but I think it’s important that she’s open and kind of looking in the right direction…so we can change and grow together.

It’d be cool if we shared the same sense of humour too so we could have a laugh…but I dunno, that’s not necessarily vital.

I don’t think physical attractiveness is particularly important either. I think on the surface level someone who I’m physically attracted to would excite me more than someone who I’m not…but past that surface level, it won’t matter.