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Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 10:16 pm Post subject: Relationship Advice
Ok so there is this girl...
Shes my childhood sweetheart who I dated a lot when I was younger, a few years ago she went to work in spain recently she came back and we met up a few times and ended up in a relationship it only lasted a month and we decided it wasnt going to work. We still go out as friends but its clear we both still have feelings for each other we just play it cool. We've planning on moving in togather in september just as friends, were even getting a puppy I think we both know that by living togather its gonna result in us being in a relationship im just not sure if its a good idea. Thing is if we go out drinking with mates and i chat up girls she gets annoyed or if she chats up guys i get annoyed so if we do move in and it doesnt work out between us whenever we have different relationships were going to get jelous of each other.
Has anyone been in this situation were u keep having feelings for an ex but it doesnt seem to work out. If you were in my situation would you make a move and try and make it work again or just leave it as its going to complicate things in the future?
What bugs me is if our relationship hasnt worked out before why would it work now?
i would do a pro and con list about moving in together. Whichever list is longer should indicate what you should do.
Personally i wouldn't move in until you discuss the boundaries of your relationship with her. If you're going to have a relationship, move in. If she just wants to be friends, but still acts jealous of other girls, that's just a catalyst for trouble and the living arrangement isn't going to work.
Posted: Mon Jun 19, 2006 6:19 am Post subject: Re: Relationship Advice
Well this is a very hard situation. I agree with Corsa. If you both still feeling jelous of each other is obvious that you still got some feelings for eachother something more than friendship.
And will be a very weird and unpleasant situation to live together as .... just friends.
Moving toghether you have 2 chances: make up again in a relationship or lost your frienship forever when some new girlfriend/boyfriend will come.
What didn't work in that relationship anyway?
Is to hard for me to understand how two people who once loved eachother and had a relationship can remain good friends after they broke up. To me it seems like a big lie those kind of relationships/friendships... you can't divide them somehow. You should ask yourself what do you really want from ths girl. You don't wanna be his boyfriend but you are jelous if she date with another guy?! And vice versa. That doesen't sound's to me like friendship. Oh and i see you just say it
scyth wrote:
We still go out as friends but its clear we both still have feelings for each other we just play it cool.
You should try again be in a relationship wit her and see how it's work until september. If doesen't work this time either don't move together. Give youreself one more chance to try the best.
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Posted: Fri Jun 23, 2006 3:23 am Post subject: Re: Relationship Advice
scyth wrote:
Ok so there is this girl...
Shes my childhood sweetheart who I dated a lot when I was younger, a few years ago she went to work in spain recently she came back and we met up a few times and ended up in a relationship it only lasted a month and we decided it wasnt going to work. We still go out as friends but its clear we both still have feelings for each other we just play it cool. We've planning on moving in togather in september just as friends, were even getting a puppy I think we both know that by living togather its gonna result in us being in a relationship im just not sure if its a good idea. Thing is if we go out drinking with mates and i chat up girls she gets annoyed or if she chats up guys i get annoyed so if we do move in and it doesnt work out between us whenever we have different relationships were going to get jelous of each other.
Has anyone been in this situation were u keep having feelings for an ex but it doesnt seem to work out. If you were in my situation would you make a move and try and make it work again or just leave it as its going to complicate things in the future?
What bugs me is if our relationship hasnt worked out before why would it work now?
Wow. I could give you tons of advice on this question. Me and my eq fiance were off and on five times in 4 years. But Ii'm not in the mood to give sagely advice. So you're on your own.. I'm just kidding.
I'm gonna tell you straight out. That it's possible to always love this chick. The real question is, are you in love with her?
And if you answered yes. Then you have to look back at your relationships. And see why you broke up, and work those issues out. Do the compromise thing if need be. And if you can't do that. Or you don't know why you break up you just do. Then no your relationship can't work out. You'll just end up in the same spot. Wondering if the next time will be different. I'm sure you and she will both say. Oh it will be different. Things are gonna be different, you'll see. Well saying and doing are two different things.
Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 9:28 pm Post subject: Re: Relationship Advice
scyth wrote:
Has anyone been in this situation were u keep having feelings for an ex but it doesnt seem to work out. If you were in my situation would you make a move and try and make it work again or just leave it as its going to complicate things in the future?
Hahaha if I had the kind of problems you have I would be the happiest person in the world
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I think we both know that by living togather its gonna result in us being in a relationship im just not sure if its a good idea. Thing is if we go out drinking with mates and i chat up girls she gets annoyed or if she chats up guys i get annoyed so if we do move in and it doesnt work out between us whenever we have different relationships were going to get jelous of each other.
To me it seems like a big lie those kind of relationships/friendships... you can't divide them somehow. You should ask yourself what do you really want from ths girl. You don't wanna be his boyfriend but you are jelous if she date with another guy?! And vice versa. That doesen't sound's to me like friendship. Oh and i see you just say it
I'm just kidding.
