Good looks equals confidence?

young · Expert User Joined: Sep 23, 2005 Posts: 602

Good looks can boost your confidence. But that doesn't mean they will. It's all a matter of how you see yourself. If to you you're ugly. Then it won't matter how good looking you are. You will not have the confidence to approach others. Depression and low self esteem don't care what you look like. Even good looking successful people can be ugly on the inside.

Septor · Elite User Joined: Dec 15, 2005 Posts: 1033

Good looks does not always equals confidence.That not to say it does not help in certain cases but there's a stereotype that attractive people can't have low self esteem.

It all about perception of oneself.Some people could be very attractive but if they don't believe it them selves they wont gain any confidence form it.I don't know how many time I have seen picture of people here that are very attractive but they have sa or low confidence because they them selves don't believe,that they are attractive.It's all in how one perceive oneself.If you have misgivings about the way you look it will affect your confidence.

A lot of people also can have problem with confidence that has nothing to do with the way they look.There could be many reason for this genetic,traumatic childhood experiences and psychological issues and none of this has to do with the way the person looks.

There many roads to confidence.There are lot of people that are less attractive that are very confidence.It's just in our society looks are put on pedestal and a lot of time people are judge just on that.When really how attractive you are is only a small part of the equation.True confidence comes from within and how you think of your self.There's many different parts that come together to form that.

loneEAGLE · Posted: Thu Jun 08, 2006 9:57 pm Post subject:

confidence is huge,when people see a confident person they say "get out their way" there deturmend to do something,being unconfident makes you look weak like a pushover and this is is why (many)men with sa find it extreamly hard to meet or even speak to women,he thinks "i think im so weak,she thinks im a wimp, that i couldnt protect her..so why even bother"and she usually thinks the same about you,while most men find shy,quiet girls cute and sweet(as do i) Evil or Very Mad

sorry for ranting butt its true..i mean i may sound bitter butt its all based on my own personal experiences Crying or Very sad

Falling · Newbie User Joined: Jul 24, 2005 Posts: 92

well confidence varies... you can be confident by the way you look, but you can be not confident by your character.

when you are not confident means that you are ashamed of something... that's why most over weight people, effeminated guys, people who arent that great looking, people who see that their charcter sucks, people who dont like their voice... they all make a step back because they are ashamed of what they are.

some things can be imporved, and some things have to be acceoted by time...

if there is a woman and makes a make over and says that she gained confidence... means that she was only not confident by the way she looks and nothing more.

nowadays "ugly" people have so much things that can change them.... hair stylists, beautitions, nutritionists, plastic sergeris.... loads of things!!! so gaining confidence in your appearance is easy. you have only to pick up the phone and make some appointments with people who can help you look better.... and let them do everything!

i was never comfortable with my hair style, and i was too shy (of what people can say about me) to make a modern hair style... i went to a new hair dresser and really made me proud of myself... but that doesnt mean that i gained confidennce in my personality.

the_sullen · Posted: Thu Jun 15, 2006 3:26 pm Post subject:

id be a lot more social if i looked like brad pitt or ll cool j or somebody. mainly cause im sure chicks would approach me all the time

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longlivesolitude · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 11, 2005 Posts: 127

the_sullen · Posted: Thu Jun 15, 2006 5:45 pm Post subject:

but we are living in a material world, whats filled with material girls.

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longlivesolitude · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 11, 2005 Posts: 127

Septor · Elite User Joined: Dec 15, 2005 Posts: 1033

It might sound like a old and tired line but personalty counts for a lot and in someways is more important then looks.I seen people go far on personalty alone.

Just because you don't look like Brad pitt or a supermodel does not mean your ugly and no will one find you attractive.Attractiveness is relative anyways.

monica · Posted: Wed Jul 05, 2006 4:38 am Post subject:

Sometimes when i do something with my hair, I get compliments but ...the things are the same cause still guys doesnt come to me, its like they are afraid of me,or they always want the crazy girl Shocked

I had boyfriends, but I mean at university I see that usually guys want the crazy wild girl .