Good looks equals confidence?

sugarcake · Newbie User Joined: Jul 21, 2006 Posts: 13

I don't think good looks really equal confidence....I have had several compliments on my looks, and I'm still way too shy and mistrusting of people. And despite how "good-looking" I am, I'm 17 and have never been on a date (and I hate admitting that). So I think looks can help, but in the end it's really personality and friendliness that matter. My cousin wasn't extremely beautiful or anything, but she was all flirtatious with the guys so she got all the dates.

corsa · Newbie User Joined: Jun 09, 2006 Posts: 79 Location: Aus

people have always made a big deal or complimented me on my looks, and i've never had any problem getting attention from men, but all of that just makes me feel uncomfortable and i don't like it. I've been told my whole life that i have a unique look, and that i don't 'look' like everybody else. One of my best friends (if you could call her that) in highschool said i was 'strange looking, but not to worry because it was in a good way, and that i was far from ugly'. If i didn't already have a complex about feeling different from everyone else, i certaintly developed one at that moment. I reckon my 'differentness' draws attention to myself when all i really want to do is blend in and go unnoticed. I've become really self-conscious about the way i look, and i hate when people stare at me, because i just know they are all thinking how strange i look.....oh but in a good way mindyou... like that shit counts anyway. Sorry bit of a rant.

pjam76 · Newbie User Joined: Aug 20, 2006 Posts: 62 Location: NYC

There are plenty of females I met over the years who were hot and very attractive.. Yet it seemed like they hated being called hot and weren't all that confident..... Some were just full of bs....They liked the compliments and were just fishing for them from people... Others simply weren't that confident at all.

But I as far as looks, I think guys that are extremely good looking will for the most part, be more confident in the long run. Girls will approach them, they don't always need great game to score dates, people will want to be friends with them. The list goes on.

A guy who is avg to below avg looking will struggle to find dates if he isn't at the top of his game all the time... That's a problem if you already have a problem talking to anybody, yet alone the opposite sex.

I don't think looks will make you a star or a nobody, but looks definitley matter in the long run.

I mean people still foam over Brad Pitt.... the guy is in his forties.
to say looks don't matter as much when you get older is kind of a moot point when Brad Pitt, a guy in his 40's, is still considered one of the hottest Males on the planet.

It's not gonna break you, but it sure is a helping hand if you need it.

Vero20 · Newbie User Joined: Apr 07, 2006 Posts: 8

U think u r right, I've always noticed that there are girls who are not really top models or anything at all but have like dozens of bfs. It's about personality, and yes I have psicological issues I'm making my best to solve... by my self. I don't wanna go to a psychologist, 'cause at the end we are the ones who have the power to make a change. I'm 18, and I think I have dated but never have a boyfriend before, why? I used to think it was because I was too ugly, guess I kinda believed it when my family told me that always; that I wasn't pretty, I was ugly. Anyway those days are over, I feel pretty but still not confident enough to flirt. Still no bf. So, yeah it's an inner problem!