Poll: Have you seen a Doctor about your shyness?

Hussein · Newbie User Joined: Oct 07, 2005 Posts: 19

Have you seen a Doctor about your shyness?

I have always wanted to but my parents are dismissive of the idea. They think I am normal! Even though I do not speak when we visit relatives and I am sure that they notice that, they still think I have absolutely no problem. I told my mum and she told me that I cant be shy because she has "seen" me talk to people sometimes. I find this very frustrating and I seriously do not know what to do.

plainsofserenity · Newbie User Joined: Jan 01, 2006 Posts: 48

Yes I have. and it was the best thing I every did.

Though from reading threads it seems to all depend on whether the doctor/therapist is right for you.
Seeing my GP for blood work the other week, she mused that I was so social and talkative that perhaps I was bi-polar. I had a assure her, and she agreed, that wasn't the case as there was never any indication of bi-polar in the past and my increase social ease developed hand-in-hand with CBT.

So yes, bringing my 'shyness' to the medical profession was the best move I made.

Hussein · Newbie User Joined: Oct 07, 2005 Posts: 19

hi plainsofserenity, would you say you are completely cured though?

IceLad · Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 9:33 pm Post subject:

Yes, but it took me long enough. I kept putting it off for months and months even though in my head I knew that I really had to do something to tackle SP.

plainsofserenity · Newbie User Joined: Jan 01, 2006 Posts: 48

savage_beagle · Intermediate User Joined: Apr 08, 2006 Posts: 188

In some cases, a doctor may be able to prescribe some kind of anti-anxiety drug and or cognitive therapy.....but its in your mind,,, and you have to cure yourself, by retraining your mind..your thoughts. Doctors aint magicians, just another asshole with a medical degree. After all your struggles, it is still UP TO YOU TO SAVE YOUR SELF from inner termoil. Wink

PunkyMonkey · Newbie User Joined: Jul 20, 2006 Posts: 59

Yes, I did just last week. My parents sound just like yours. "I don't think you have a problem, you're not shy at all compared to some people. You need to live life and have experiences." So last week when they took me in for a physical for college, I told my mom I would go in and do it alone. When the doctor asked me if I had anything else I wanted to ask about....I told her about my SA. She was very helpful. She recommended therapists and talked about all kinds of medications that might help with me. I have an appointment with a therapist, finally, the day after tomorrow.

Maybe you can figure out a way to do something like this too. I'm very happy I've finally done something, even if bringing it up with the doctor was hard. I think what helped the most was that my talking to the doctor about it kind of helped my parents realize I have a real problem and that it's something I am actually struggling with every day.

Hussein · Newbie User Joined: Oct 07, 2005 Posts: 19

Hi PunkyMonkey,

thanks for you message. I am sure that your parents care about you just as mine do about me, but sometimes they do not know whats going on in our heads because we learn to hide our fear and insecurity.

behindcloseddoors · Newbie User Joined: Aug 07, 2006 Posts: 21

Stick with it see your gp if that doesn't work change gp and try again.

My parents and Gp thought there was nothing wrong with me when I was 13-14 it took untill I was 22 untill I adventually found a sympathetic gp.
But times have changed now, things like Sp Sa and shyness are recognised as a medical problem and not something you'll grow out of.