a few of my problems...(lol)

SkyStorm · Newbie User Joined: Aug 23, 2006 Posts: 16

Im Alex, im 15 and i live in the UK, i cant seem to talk to anyone and it means im becoming a recluse, i dont bother to go anywhere and i cant talk to anyone. If someone asks me something i go red in the face, my speech goes monotone and quiet as a dead mouse and i cant look them in the eyes.

There is a girl at school i really like and she's ok with my shyness but i think i would be going out with her by now if i wasnt like this. As its the holidays i talk to her over msn nearly everyday and im cool with that (she cant see me and no eye contact needed lol) but in 2 weeks i go back to school and i dont want to be like this. i found im not shy when im drunk but thats not gunna happen very often (it was at a wedding i found that out)

I know there are millions of ppl like this out there and maybe any help for me will help them too. ANY IDEAS?

benihana · Posted: Thu Aug 24, 2006 3:36 pm Post subject:

Hey Alex, good to hear from you!! Nice going with your girl. I think you should try to put yourself in her shoes when you see her next. She obviously wants to get to know you or you both wouldn't be talking on MSN over break everyday. This is great!! Help her get to know you....

On the side of getting drunk to overcome shyness....bad move. This helps at times, but you will find you will want to rely on it. You can not be drunk all the time. The way to get over shyness is to do it sober and find a way to relax and taking the pressure off of yourself in social situations. Drinking is fun, but does not solve problems...

Good luck!!

SkyStorm · Newbie User Joined: Aug 23, 2006 Posts: 16

lol i like the name, nah i didnt mean it like that it only happened once seeing as im 15, and it probably wont happen again but it kinda helped. I was meant to be meeting up with her today, i got her number at the last second cos she forgot to give it to me and it was too late, she was being picked up by her mum. I thought shit...then she called and offered to meet up for 10 mins, i got really shy and made some crap excuse and i hate myself, she is on msn now and isnt too happy, i hope we meet tomorrow.

SkyStorm · Newbie User Joined: Aug 23, 2006 Posts: 16

sorry about the swearing but i really am mad, i did hold it in a bit lol.

corrinaelizabeth · Posted: Thu Aug 24, 2006 5:46 pm Post subject:

I hope you manage to meet her tomorrow as that would be a great step of helping you to overcome sp.
I know your scared but if you keep coming up with crappy excuses you will feel even worse and so will she.
So I say bite the bullet and go for it!I bet you will have a great day as soon as the initial nerves go.
Good luck! Very Happy

SkyStorm · Newbie User Joined: Aug 23, 2006 Posts: 16

thnx, im seeing her again next week Smile

corrinaelizabeth · Posted: Sat Aug 26, 2006 9:49 pm Post subject:

good for you!

SkyStorm · Newbie User Joined: Aug 23, 2006 Posts: 16

im going out on the date in 45 mins... oh i better go get ready but im happy! Very Happy

benihana · Posted: Mon Aug 28, 2006 2:27 pm Post subject:

Good on ya! Keep everybody updated on how it went..

SkyStorm · Newbie User Joined: Aug 23, 2006 Posts: 16

it was awesome, it couldnt have been any better except maybe next time i wont accidently destroy my bike.