Please help - new here!

alejessie · Newbie User Joined: Aug 24, 2006 Posts: 2

first of all i must say i am new here, and i appologise if i will be repeating some topics but i just wanted to make a new one where i can write about my problems, hoping you guys can understand and help me in any possible way...
so, i would like to know: is this anxiety or i should be worried?
i am 30 years old, and my problems started two years ago. i was studying abroad and evrything was ok, but when i got back home i found out the horrible truth that my parents are getting divorced. it was quite of a shock for me even though i was 28 years old living my life, but still living with my parents (this is so normal here, in my country, i know many of you will be surprised Smile

. anyhow, we had 6 months of hell at home where i was trying to bestrong for my mum, but then when my father moved out i sterted to feel strange, with feeling like trembling, like my whole body was vinrating from the inside. then i collapsed and had two serious asthma attacks in 3 months (i have asthma since i was 17). after my asthma was stabilised (i am using seretide now), some those strange thing were starting to happen more often. i will write all of my symptoms in random order:
- pressure in the head
- trembeling
- feeling of vibrating from the inside
- feeling lightheaded, like am gonna faint
- feeling unstable on my legs - you know, you feel like your legs don't belong to you
- restless
- sometimes i would wake up at night with hot flashes and my muslce on the legs were trembeling - it would last for 10 mins and than nothing
and each of this sypmpotms would scare me like hell, and i started to be scared that i have some horrible illness. all those symptoms would come and go, in a since that i would have them for example, half a day, and then nothing would happen for week or two. then there was a period when i was perfectly ok for 2-3 months. but then last summer i had started some turbulent relationship which was stressfull and very disturbing, with lot of crying, sadness etc. since that my conditions and symptoms were going crazy. i was totally unhappy with my love life, my mum wasnt ok due to the divorce, we also had some illness in the family, and that was all bothering me. two weeks ago i started developing sympotms lile trembeling again, i was totaly shaky (not visible on hand but i can feel it from the inside), nervous stomach, my leg muscle leg hurt, my legs were feeling unstable, i felt like i was gonna faint, i didnt feel like doing anything, i just wanted to stay home and feel as safe as i can, cos these sympotms were so scary that i was afraid that i would faint when i am having a walk in the city without anybody to help me. i lost interest in my friends, i was crying, being scared that i might be seriously ill, and in the meantine those other symptoms didn't stop for one week.
i would like to stress out that all above mentioned sympotms sometimes happen out of blue, when least expected, even though i might seem calm and doing ok.
i know, i bored you so much with this, but i just wanted to hear your opinion, is this really some kind of anxiety or should i be worried that is something wrong with me (who knows what - i am scared of tumors, cancer etc...).
i would appreciate your kind comments. and once agin sorry for the long message Crying or Very sad

workingonit · Newbie User Joined: Apr 26, 2006 Posts: 20

Well it seems like these symptoms come when your really stressed out and things aren't going the right way. This happens to me also when i get upset and can't let things go or some thing goes wrong and i can't accept it. My stomach starts hurting and i feel like im going to faint. Or my legs feel wierd and i feel vibraty. Don't get afraid of this stuff, cuz then you get even more scared and make the symptoms worse. I'm not a doctor but sounds like its anxiety. Once you get the anxiety fixed, lower your stress level, and not get so upset over things, these symptoms will decrease dramatically. I suggest that when you think about your mom and dad divorcing, or your sad relationship, you just say you know what, this is happening right now, but i am strong, and i can handle it. Your mom and dad can deal with the divorce on their own, there is NO reason why you should dwell on it and worry about it and let it bother you so much. Just accept what it is, and let it go. The same with your relationship. If you keep on dwelling and worrying about it, then its just gonna make you worse.....trust me...i know. When you start to feel realllllly stressed out about everything...light some candles....take a hot bath..... listen to music.....and just let all of that stuff go.

alejessie · Newbie User Joined: Aug 24, 2006 Posts: 2

thank you for your kind message. and you are right, i make things even worst with getting scared over symptoms that are happening to me. i have just one question that bothers me: sometimes those sypmtoms come pout of blue, when least expected, when i am totally calm and relaxed.. just the other day, i was cleanng my room, listening to some music, and all of a sudden i started feelign shaky, vibrating, and my legs feel weird like you said... was this the case also with you?

workingonit · Newbie User Joined: Apr 26, 2006 Posts: 20

yes, the same case with me...if something bothered me that day or the day before. Like if i had a really stressful or nervousy day the night before and then the next day i was calm.... i would feel like something wasn't right or shaky all the sudden. Or if that day i had been trying new things or trying to challenge myself more, later on in the day i would feel shaky. Its kinda like your body doesn't know when it can relax or not, because you've been getting stressed out about stuff that arent emergencies. So it just does the shaky adrenaline thing on its own. When that happens again out of the blue....just say ok i know what this is....im just gonna lay down for a little while. When that happens to me all the sudden...i just lay down on my bed, close my eyes, and wait for it to pass. If ya get more nervous about you being shaky out of the blue...then your gonna feel worse.