always getting rejected by women

Guest · Posted: Tue Nov 23, 2004 12:30 am Post subject:

[quote= I don't care if my man is poor, ugly, stupid, all I want is for my man to be confident, reliable, and dependable, not self-absorbed, insecure, and selfish.[/quote] But why do you want expect this of him is it a catharsis for something that you can't give yourself.

As far as your best friend's father. It is ashame, but you really can't base every SA guy off of one person. And did your best friend's family and daughter try to help this man any? If they weren't selfish also, then maybe through their understanding, instead of accusations and blame, he would have gotten better and would have appeared less selfish.

annie · Posted: Tue Nov 23, 2004 9:59 am Post subject:

I agree whole heartedly with LilMissTragic.

Also did you read RonW's post?
If I only I could find a great sensitive, slightly social phobic like him. He seems to have came a long way with his social anxiety.
Obviously you are not prepared to give anyone a go, they have to be perfect, well guess what? no one is perfect.

RonW if you read this, why do you think I would hate your brother? Wink

Cheers
annie

Fredscarecrow · Advanced User Joined: Dec 11, 2004 Posts: 423

Dandelion:

my friends father has severe SA, he cannot leave the house, he hits his kids because he does not know how to act around them. Yes he is a social wreck yet my friend loves him. completely and utterly. One time her and I had won a school prize which was presented at prize giving. her father turned up. i am certain she nearly burst with pride.

His suffering means that she is encouraging me to seek help

men with SA need more encouragement, loving and help then your everyday guy. im not saying take pity on them, for i doubt they would appreciate pity. Treat them as though they were normal, but with more compassion. if your looking for a sex buddy then roam the streets and find one. if you are looking for a potential partner dont rule out guys with SA. theres nothing saying they are not reliable.

so many of us on here (the women and men) are happily married or in relationships. are you saying that we have no RIGHT to be in these relationships, because our 'condition' says that we are not dependable and suitable?