That is how I overcame it. I embraced that I was very nervous and shy and I would interact with people turning 3shades of red. Some people were nice and that made me more nervous some people were cruel and would say"your turning so red and turn to someone next to them and say "look how red she is" I would stand my ground and say " so what" or what's your point" this seemed to get them off me. Soon I noticed that the not caring if I blushed made the blush lighter, and the not caring who knew how nervous I was made me less nervous. I became outgoing and had friends. I had a relapse into it (12 years later) but it is not as bad as it was.
that's also often how I'll deal with it. Hard as hell sometimes, sure but it's the best way I think.
I would likely blush during almost any topic of conversation with work mates for example. Sometimes the thought 'I'm not blushing yet - wow!' would creep in, and that was enough to start a war of self control, usualy lost, to try and stop going red no mater what the conversation or situation.
but anyway, getting involved, as in really taking your mind off the blushing, not even thinking about it at all just 'works'.
So, for something I always wanted to do, that was be a videogame artist, I knew if I went for the job it'd involve interacting a lot, but I also wanted it so much I didn't allow any blushing thoughts in (until I got the job, settled in, and then it crept back...). So, in th einterview - usually oh so painful - I was so hyped and excited about the situation, the very fact I was there - that blushing didn't enter my head, ONCE. And if I did blush I didn't know, and I don't care!
So although it still has control over my life, I challenge it almost daily. And by getting into doing things a lot - you know, life - but take it seriously and don't concern yourself with blushing -"pah! blushing, what's that anyway...nonesense" I've got a life to live. Don't let it stop you, please.
lol =] you know what, this technique has worked for me a few times before! but sumtimes its easier said than done and its hard to not suppress it in your mind
Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 10:36 pm Post subject: Re: blushing: the paradoxical intentions method
firelily wrote:
in a situation where you would normally blush, like if you see a person walking towards you who you know triggers it, then you are supposed to try as hard as you can to blush the reddest, purplest, deepest blush that you can. Focus on trying to blush rather than anything else (like supressing it), challenge yourself to do it. And ideally, you won't blush because your forcing yourself to do it rather than thinking
I think it may work but only as long as you manage to genuinely desire to provoke the blushing. Otherwise you will start worrying: "will this technique work now?" And inevitably blush
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