Posted: Sun Aug 27, 2006 6:20 pm Post subject: Re: Bullying and its persistent Impact.
astro_celtic wrote:
I always think I might act in a stupid manner or something If I talk and I usually prefer to stay quite.(I have tried a lot to make friends but still have only a few).
So was just wondering has anyone else here been through a similar situation in past and do you still feel it effects you?
I used to have that kind of fear all the time during my junior and early high school years (well, italian equivalents), that is up to maybe 17 or so, then it slowly went away. I still have a lot problems with social relations, and practically no friends, obviously.
Anyhow, are you sure it came for you after being bullied, or wasn't it the reason why you became a target for it in the first place? Because I never was bullied (well, not heavily, only a couple of times) yet I had the same problems.
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Posted: Sun Aug 27, 2006 6:30 pm Post subject: Re: Bullying and its persistent Impact.
astro_celtic wrote:
Hi all,
I was really Bullied badly for some 5 yrs during my school life. Although I am 21 now but I still feel as if that part of my life hasnt died out. Its been 4 yrs since I have been bullied last but the bad time I had in in school still effects me. I always think I might act in a stupid manner or something If I talk and I usually prefer to stay quite.(I have tried a lot to make friends but still have only a few).
So was just wondering has anyone else here been through a similar situation in past and do you still feel it effects you? have you been able to overcome thoughts of a bad past arising again and again in ur life?
hey astro_celtic..i was bullied pretty badly in school, mainly high school on the bus...i think it has a lot to do with my anxiety..and it still bums me out when i think about it..but i guess, i try to move on from it and not give the bastards that hurt me power over me any more ...but it's not easy, i know
I was emotionally bullied from primary school to secondary school so that must have been 7 yrs. It still affects me now and I have a slight social phobia although it is no way as bad as it used to be. I don't trust people much and they hurt me easily as I am a sensitive person and try not to get too attached to people in case they hurt me emotionally. I used to binge eat and I still have problem with food now to a certain degree although I seem to drink alcohol more than eat for comfort. I seem to find something to help me get through life ie drink or food and it is not a good way to live. When you have been programmed as I have to feel uncomfortable with yourself and other people it is a hard habit to break. I think you could call it conditioning. Nurture rather than Nature.
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Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 1:28 am Post subject:
I was bullied in primary school when I moved to where I am now, I was the weird shy kid that looked like a vampire, and the one who couldn't speak, I was knocked unconscious with a soccor ball, pushed down the stairs and beaten with a traffic cone, and that's just a bunch of 12 year olds doing that.
When I got to high school I was dubbed "the silence" or "mute girl", people would ask me if I could speak and then make retard faces at me and call me stupid.
I think people who bully other people are the retarded ones, anyone who gets off on seeing another person upset is weak and cowardly, I pity the people who bullied me and I pity the people who bully other people, it must be so hard to look in the mirror and know you're a big fat jerk
I think that the people bullying me were big fat jerks but I'm still living with that phobia (hidden within my heart).
It's funny how things stay with you. A learning process that we all want to unlearn. I'm unlearning it slowly but it takes so much time. Does anyone feel resentful that they have wasted so many opportunities that if they didn't have a phobia they could have done it? I did, but what is done is done. I am trying to put back the pieces right now.
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Posted: Sat Nov 25, 2006 2:11 pm Post subject:
I was bullied from grades 7 to 10 during my high school years and it still affects me immensly. I was a non-talker as well but I was bullied because my classmates interpreted my quietness as snobbiness.
My sensitivity just made it worse from then. They all bullied me just so they could see me get upset.
From grade 11 onwards the bullying stopped after the jerks dropped out of school, which kinda proves that they weren't very smart
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