I'm "bisexual".... I guess. thought I was lesbian for a while recently. sometimes I think I'm just a lesbian who likes to be with certain men. for some, sexuality seems so easy to understand and define; but there are those of us out there who have so much trouble just applying a label and making it stick.
we need to avoid the labels and focus on what we are as the most relevant thing. we like what we like - and we love who we love. those preferences might even change over time, who knows. we should just do what feels right and let others call us what they will.
Thank you. I feel lost and confused. Reading that made me feel less alone about it. There are other people out there like me...
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Honey, how much older are you talking? Please keep in mind that in our not too long ago history, young girls would marry men much, much older than them. Please don't let our cultural boundaries and boxes let you define what's normal and what's not. You like who you like, for reasons you don't have much control over. There's one thing I am certain about: you can't help how you feel.
BTW, my guy I slept with was 7 years older than me. The guy I like now is 9 years older.
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Let the damned breeze dry my face
I like older girls. I'm really not ashamed of it. I've fallen in love with a woman that is 14 year older than me. She's who I love and I'm 18 and I don't need to answer to anybody. So you aren't alone in liking older people.
This may sound weird but maybe try looking at some gay porn. I seriously asked myself if I was gay one time and when I looked at gay porn that convinced me that I wasn't and looking back I was just lonely and frustrated with girls.
Since when is love about logistics anyway
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I'm sorry. I thought this thread was about you questioning if you were gay and that you liked older men?
no, it wasn't anything about questioning if I was gay but it's ok, thanks for your reply.
btw, Is what you like about older women similar to what I like? and I just wondered if there's a connection b/t divorced parents and not getting proper care and attention like a parent wasn't really there, can you relate to that?
I'm sorry Jinxed but are you a guy or a girl? I'm very confused for some reason.
I think so. My father was only around for a little bit when I was young and never saw him after I was around 10 or so until a couple years ago. My mother pretty much didn't parent me at all. She could never say no and because of that I pretty much made my own decisions when I was young. I think because of this I'm attracted to strong girls and they tend to be older. I'm attracted to the take charge kind of girl and I've always known this. I think I'm looking for more like a parent figure almost. I'm also attracted to girls my own age so it isn't mainly age.
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I'm sorry Jinxed but are you a guy or a girl? I'm very confused for some reason.
I think so. My father was only around for a little bit when I was young and never saw him after I was around 10 or so until a couple years ago. My mother pretty much didn't parent me at all. She could never say no and because of that I pretty much made my own decisions when I was young. I think because of this I'm attracted to strong girls and they tend to be older. I'm attracted to the take charge kind of girl and I've always known this. I think I'm looking for more like a parent figure almost. I'm also attracted to girls my own age so it isn't mainly age.
It's ok, I'm a girl. And I was actually right about the divorced parents etc, that it could likely be true that is. Yeh I could probably like younger guys as well if I was looking, you never really know as I've had changes in opinions during the yrs.
For some reason I assumed you were a guy We are like those guys that like big girls or the girls that like tall guys. We're just a little stranger but we'll find somebody if we keep our eyes open.
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Edit, Well I didn't read the second page but since some of this is talk about gayness i'll leave this here anyways lol. Edit
I'm not gay. But some people at work think I am because I'm never trying to get a girlfriend and never talking to girls. Well they thought that until I finally got one they said, well at least we know you're not gay. But since we broke up they call me toodles again pretty annoying.
My ex was bisexual. And she rarely ever wanted to have sex. So all I could think was all she really wants is a girl at least for sex. So my advice to all straight people don't date bi-sexuals because frustrating thoughts can go through your mind. Just thinking about my ex with another girl made me so angry. And the more I thought about that and the lack of sex thing the less happy the relationship was until ultimately I left.
but I'm questioning that decission based on my current level of loneliness.
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I'm not gay myself but I do occasionally find other guys attractive, and I'm one of the very few men I know who's okay with saying that. I do know that I'd never act on it because it's nowhere near strong enough for me to want to pursue. Gay porn does absolutely nothing for me either, so I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Older women are my preference too incidentally. What I like is the fact that many are really over the petty bullshit that comes with being the age I am. I see so much junk on the TV, like "The Real World" and I think to myself "I'm so far removed from that it's not even funny." I'm used to being somewhat intellectual, to thinking about things and appreciating some of the deeper things in life, while still occasionally having some fun. That happens to tie in quite well with a somewhat older partner. So yeah, it works for me.
I don't know what I am....though I usually call myself "asexual"...I'm attracted to some males, some females......but deep down I know I'm meant to be alone. So I might as well call myself "asexual".
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