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Quixote
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At first sight it's impossible, but a very short time can definitely be enough. At least for what I have seen around.
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nerdgirl178
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This psychologist Jonathan Haidt is full of crap!
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ozkr
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| nerdgirl178 wrote: | | This psychologist Jonathan Haidt is full of crap! |
Could you elaborate? I think he actually makes some kind of sense.
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maggie
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| Posted: Wed Nov 01, 2006 2:52 am Post subject: |
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| nerdgirl178 wrote: | | This psychologist Jonathan Haidt is full of crap! |
seems like kind of an insensitive thing to say about someone else's post 
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Maarten
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| Posted: Wed Nov 01, 2006 11:46 am Post subject: |
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| nerdgirl178 wrote: | | This psychologist Jonathan Haidt is full of crap! |
You are free to believe this nerdgirl, but I think a professor in psychology deserves a little more credit than being full of sh*t.
The only reason why I posted in this tread is because it hurts me to hear people say that love at first sight is impossible. To say this would be to say that the pain I felt because of my love is somehow impossible. I think Jonathan Haidt explains why some people believe that love at first sight is impossible. Its not, they have just never experienced it, they have experienced compassionate love. (which grows over the years)
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renegadee
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Maarten, can the 2 types of love coexist ?
I mean the love you feel in the beggining is passionate, then as this weres off, compasionate love takes it place.
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LittleMissScareAll
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I think we can feel like we are but others don't feel the same way. At least in my case. I was with my ex so long...and he just trashed me for some stupid ugly whore that didn't even like him. I think she went out with him a week or 2 then dumped him for someone else. So now I am alot more cautious. I never thought he would do that to me.  
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nerdgirl178
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| LittleMissScareAll wrote: | | I think we can feel like we are but others don't feel the same way. At least in my case. I was with my ex so long...and he just trashed me for some stupid ugly whore that didn't even like him. I think she went out with him a week or 2 then dumped him for someone else. So now I am alot more cautious. I never thought he would do that to me. |
Well he did you a favor my deary  I think a lot of girls and guys too make the huge mistake by expecting certain things in relationships. Maybe this may not be your case...but some people do stay in relationships because of what they want it to be instead of what it really is. Thanks Oprah!!! 
Personally, I think there many types of love in my opinion. Not all though experience real love, sadly. Most people just need a partner because life is so hard alone 
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Maarten
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| renegadee wrote: | Maarten, can the 2 types of love coexist ?
I mean the love you feel in the beggining is passionate, then as this weres off, compasionate love takes it place. |
Yes, that's what he recommends. When you're in passionate love you should try to convert it to compassionate love. I don't think he says how this should be done but if you're interested in the subject you could read up on it. I believe psychologist Elaine Hatfield did the original research on the subject.
(Sorry for my late reply I have been away from the site for a while)
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haze
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just imaginging that 2 SA people walk past eachother and automaticly connect and know they could live their whole lives togeather then both do nothing about it. wow thats depressing..
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