Joined: Dec 14, 2004 Posts: 73 Location: South Africa
Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 7:25 pm Post subject:
Hey there!
from Cape Town here, Well not quite joburg, but close enuf
Good to have people from SA here!
I always thought it was wierd, people with SA in SA.
Sorry me just being silly.
Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 1:32 pm Post subject: HI Cape Tonian
Hi there, its comforting to know there are fellow south africans out there! send me a personal message to tell me more about how you are getting on , how old you are etc!
hi
i am a student at cape town originaly from gauteng and i have avoidant personality disoder. i always want to please people
Growing up, I denied to myself that I had feelings. I tried to ignore all of them. A person without feelings, can't get hurt, right? Wrong! I was living behind a wall, in my own world. When I look back I realize that all my thoughts and actions were controlled by my malfunctioning personality. Nothing I thought or felt back then about other people is valid or just. I actually thought that most people wanted to 'figure me out', find me innermost secrets, expose them and ridicule me and take pleasure from the process. It causes great pain to shut of your feelings like that, because it's not just the bad feelings (the anxiety) but the good feelings also (the ability to feel and express love/friendship/ect. for someone else). The isolation is bad, but it's not as bad as the anxiety (in the beginning, at least
wow thats interesting!! isnt the mind such an amazing, powerful machine over our emotions and feelings! I think Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is worth doing for anyone with SA or avoidant personality disorder. I know therapy is expensive but perhaps you could start off by buying a book on CBT and then saving up for the therapy sessions. As hard as they are to talk through at first, you always leave feeling great and you learn so much about yourself!! I mean i have SA and i got married in front of 80 people!!! Something i would have avoided like the plague pre-therapy. There was a show recently on 702 medical matters about SA. There are therapists in SA who can help.
Good luck everyone, xx
Joined: Dec 14, 2004 Posts: 73 Location: South Africa
Posted: Fri Oct 20, 2006 8:15 pm Post subject:
Thats awesome. I've been looking into trying out CBT. But you know how it goes, can't bloody hell get myself to make the call.
Well, its true what you say the mind is a powerful thing. Lately I've been trying to outtalk that negative voice that seems to constantly fill my head with doom and gloom and replace it with happy thoughts. After reading it in so many books I've decided to actually try it out, and funny enough.....its actually working!! (well only a little)
It definitely does work! When you feel bad enough, you will get the energy to phone a therapist, trust me, thats what happened to me! IT got so bad i had to get help! And im so glad i did, CBT is amazing!
My hardest challenge is interviews = i keep avoiding them! I do have a job but id like to move and am frozen!~
Take care~
Joined: Feb 03, 2007 Posts: 7 Location: South Africa
Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 11:55 pm Post subject:
I live in Stellenbosch. I think I have SA but I've never been diagnosed. Too scared, you know how it is. I've never seen anyone behaving like I do so I can't believe that there are actually other people with this condition.
You need to look on line (try google) for a psychotherapist in your area who specialises in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. This is the single most effective treatment. Also, buy some books on CBT to help you out.
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