Nearly 15 yrs ago, a friend of mine told me that he liked me more thna a firend. I toild him then that it could never be more than a friendship, and although he has told me often that he loves me, we were able to remain friends.
Last year, I told a friend I met online that I had feelings for him. He said he didn't feel the same way and I had to decide if I could still be his friend. I couldn't and we didn't talk for 10days. In that time, I realised that I needed him in my life and that being his friend and having him there was better than not. He however, realised that he loved me and we were fortunate enough to be able to share these feelings, and we have been together for 10months. I guess what I am trying to say is I have seen it from both sides and neither feels good to be honest, but it is always best to lay your cards on the table and tell the truth about how you feel. If the other person still wants to be friends, then all well and good. I guess it comes down to what that person wants.
Now you are still good friends???
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I can be just a friend with my crush but just if we both are single. I can't imagine beeing a good friend with the boy that i love if he has a girlfriend.
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Joined: Sep 04, 2006 Posts: 19 Location: In the wrong place in time...
Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2007 10:36 am Post subject:
BrokenSmile wrote:
I can be just a friend with my crush but just if we both are single. I can't imagine beeing a good friend with the boy that i love if he has a girlfriend.
I have that same problem.
My first person I was crazy about, when she said lets just be friends, at very fist I didn't want to even think about it. She didn't hear from me for over 4 months, but when she did we continued to be friends.
It was going alright for a while, when we each had problems we would talk with each other about it.
The only problem was when she had a boyfriend then I was uneasy. However whenever she had a new boyfriend, I would eventually find out that they were not too keen on me being friends with her. This girl lived next door so even my mom would tell me to stop talking to her everytime I came home because her boyfriends wouldn't like it.
So one day me and my mom had this major argument about something else and I took it as an opportunity to leave and never comeback. That meant I wouldn't be able to meet my friend anymore.
I haven't seen or talked to her for some years now but I do hear about her from my other friends. If she didn't have a boyfriend then I still would keep in contact like friends would.
Then there's the girl I'm crazy about now, as far as I know she doesn't have a boyfriend and we haven't had the "let's just be friends" talk yet, but I know if she finds someone then I'm going to hear from her less and I'll probably want to stop communicating with her. I find it hard to be able to 'behave' in the way that I do now if she was involved with someone else.
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