any mothers out there

sweetgirl · Newbie User Joined: Sep 20, 2006 Posts: 4

Hi
was wondering if theres anyone here whos a mother and suffering from social phobia

leneylea · Newbie User Joined: Sep 12, 2006 Posts: 15

Hi sweetgirl.

Im a mother of two a five yo boy and a three month old girl. Ive been painfully shy ever since i can remember and have known ive had SA for 4 years. I never thought it would affect my children because i thought if i give them enough love and praise they would grow up confident, but i now know better as my son is in preschool and is shy as well, it breaks my heart. I now know i have to make my self better first. So thats what im working on now-baby steps.

sweetgirl · Newbie User Joined: Sep 20, 2006 Posts: 4

Hi there leneylea
All i can add is dont blame yoursef on how the kids are or will turn out
your boy will be ok hes only 5 right now so hopefully he will be more confident when he is alot older
i have 1 girl and she is very opposite to what i was when i was a little girl
i have always been a shy girl at school and with strangers
dont be hard on yourself about this your not a faliure

sweetgirl · Newbie User Joined: Sep 20, 2006 Posts: 4

Hi there leneylea
All i can add is dont blame yoursef on how the kids are or will turn out
your boy will be ok hes only 5 right now so hopefully he will be more confident when he is alot older
i have 1 girl and she is very opposite to what i was when i was a little girl
i have always been a shy girl at school and with strangers
dont be hard on yourself about this your not a faliure.

bashfulgirl · Newbie User Joined: Nov 26, 2005 Posts: 37

Hey Leneylea and Sweetgirl.

I'm in the same boat. I've got 2 boys and I'm always watching them to see if have any of my symptoms-so far so good but its always on my mind. Motherhood is the best thing I've done in my life, but thehardest too.

leneylea · Newbie User Joined: Sep 12, 2006 Posts: 15

Thanks for your replies guys. I think you could be right, just because my son is quiet now i shouldnt jump to conclusions. There are lots of people who say they were shy as children and to me as adults they seem outgoing. Shyness is one thing social phobia is another. Smile

gg · Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 12:35 pm Post subject:

Yes i have a son who is 4. rite now he seems pretty confident but i dont think i will have anymore kidz because of my sa. I just hated all those doctors check ups when i was pregnant & then taking him to the health centre all the time & then enrolling him in kinder. I would get so nervous doing those things & i dont want to put myself thru it again. I need to get better first.

yodarita · Newbie User Joined: Feb 02, 2005 Posts: 38 Location: wales

im also a mum, i have a little girl whos 3 and a boy 9mths, i worry slightly that they might get sa but as i also suffer from ocd that is the one i look out for the most but thats another story, the worst thing ive had to do as a parent sa wise is taking my daughter to nursery, i really dont like it and i have upset myself a great deal over this, thankfully i have mum and my partner to help out with some drop offs and pick ups but it still doesnt seem to be enough even though i am truely greatfull and expres these feelings alot, ide love some tips from other mums with sa on how to feel less anxious about being at the nursery - waiting in the yard with the other parents is the worst, i sometimes look around and can see the other parents talking together and even though im nervious to interact with them myself i think deep down thats what i want., so any tips or words of advice would be great.

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chulap · Newbie User Joined: Jan 25, 2007 Posts: 2

Hi I'm a mum and have a daughter. She wants to be in the bigger group at school which is promising but when she is out of the house she goes very quiet and I do worry about it. She wants to go to things which is good. She is mad at me for the way I am and I think I have to change to help her.

Keara · Newbie User Joined: Oct 04, 2006 Posts: 17

I am a mother of 2 boys, age 4 and 6. My 6 year old is a lot like me, quiet until he gets to know someone, and very sensitive. I worry about him a little. He talks non stop when he's excited though, even to adults.

My 4 year old is completely different, no signs of SA that I can see. He still throws big screaming temper tantrums when hes mad and he doesn't care whos around! Kind of embarrasing for a quiet girl like me, but at least I don't have to worry about him being too shy!

I think having them is motivating me to change too. It is getting really hard to take them out because of my phobia, and that's not good for them.