Do you ever just pretend to be happy?

E · Newbie User Joined: Jan 04, 2007 Posts: 28

i pretend to be happy so people won't think i'm so depressed and boring all the time. people stay away from that shit and look for amusing happy people. unlike meee
but alot of times i can't change my expression i always look depressed of life..

RedPillGunslinger · Newbie User Joined: Feb 22, 2007 Posts: 2

I'm a really honest person so I don't like pretending to be happy, but I do to a certain degree. Like, if somebody makes a stupid joke, I'll at least crack a smile.

renegade · Advanced User Joined: Oct 26, 2005 Posts: 338

I'm tired of struggling to look happy all the time when inside i want to k**l myself Evil or Very Mad

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haze · Newbie User Joined: Sep 14, 2006 Posts: 82

not all the time but a considerable amount more then any normal person.

pinkputter · Intermediate User Joined: Aug 09, 2006 Posts: 129

I think everyone pretends to be happy at some point. Not just people with SA.

On a day to day basis, I think it's good to at least try to be optomistic. If that means smiling when normally you wouldnt, I think thats a commendable thing.
People should smile more.

But whatever you do don't be happy for the sake of some one else. Be happy for you. Be happy cause you want to get better. Not to appease some one else. Not to find joy in something false.

This is a complicated subject because I think recovery for SA to a large extent is based on being honest with yourself. But if we're so honest that we never get better cause we're just feeling sorry for ourselves, that will not aid to recovery at all. Look for things you can be happy about. Negative thoughts are usually very irrational. Find happiness in true things so that you are not pleasing other people.

Slash · Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 3:00 pm Post subject:

Yes and I'd actually convinced myself that i was happy for quite some time it is only so long though until cracks began to show on surface though. I'm now just more accepting depression than trying to hide it with a facade as I was before.

of_darkness · Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 4:36 pm Post subject:

i don't just look happy when i should be annoyed or upset, i can fool myself too. If i really should be upset by something i'll just smile and laugh it off, even just to make the other person feel better if they've done something wrong.
But when i don't care about the other person/people i can still just laugh, it seems better than struggling to speak and risking looking weaker. (I don't actively think that in my mind, it's just the way it happens)

jinxed · Intermediate User Joined: Mar 18, 2006 Posts: 298

missquiet · Intermediate User Joined: Sep 25, 2005 Posts: 101

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pookie · Newbie User Joined: Mar 07, 2007 Posts: 15

I never let people see me sad, but the truth is that I am most of the time. it's not easy to pretend all the time.