made some progress

Guest · Posted: Tue Dec 21, 2004 4:47 pm Post subject:

good on ya mate! Doubt you'll be doing nothing on nye, especially since you have a girl contact now. Keep it up mate

MrHappy · Posted: Tue Dec 21, 2004 6:08 pm Post subject:

Tommy mate, I admire you. I find it really hard to get myself to go these sorts of things.

I had a work night out on friday, I went because I'd had a good time at the previous one. I drank a few pints fairly quickly to get the confidence up a bit which was a mistake. I find I try to hard to fit in at a social gathering. I either drink too much or am so over confident that I just embarass myself and thats what I thought I did.

I spent the weekend worrying about what I did, fearing the worst. It ruined the weekend, was like a permenant hangover the whole time.

Turns out I didn't do anything. Every1 was so wrecked that they spent too much time worrying about themselves to care about what I had done.

On saturday I had wound myself up so much that I wasn't going to out for weeks, I feared it too much.

When I'm out I generally enjoy myself but always avoid it. At the mention of a social event, I get a nervous feeling, I sweat and rapidly think of the first reason I can for not going out. Afraid that something will go wrong. Always thought I was a tw*t and a freak.

Good on you mate. Like someone else on here said to you, carry on like you have done, it will definately get easier. Avoidance will only ever make things worse.

tommy_15 · Advanced User Joined: Nov 16, 2004 Posts: 351

hi everyone

thanks for all the support ! Very Happy

glad some of you guys are making moves aswell, love to see us sp'ers getting somewere ! Laughing

well, first better update on that chick. she got all embarressed after i didnt want to sleep with her that night ... and so she cut me off. o well Rolling Eyes

okies... since then have done a few social things, mostly small, but some moderate, and iv coped great, even had fun most of the time and it feels rewarding yer Surprised

anyway so heres whats up now. theres this australian forum iv been a regular on for like 6 months (non mental health related) and anyway so there is a big get together coming up this sunday, and lots of the members from sydney are going.

ANYHOW .... i really want to go ... it would be great to meet all these people i love em heaps iv got lots of friends ... also one lady is offering to come by and give me a lift so tis not a problem.

now .. if i were to go to this event anonomously, i would be absolutely fine with it. However .. meeting all these great people that i have been building relations with for months ... i feel pressure not to screw it up yer know ?

like i love that forum ... most of the members love me... and thats why it would be so great to go ... but also i dont want to shatter any illusions .. because that place is like my hang out.

oh and plus theres gonna be some hot girls there for sure .. all of them are my type... Embarassed

i gotta take the plunge and go huh ???

hmmm yes i have to go Laughing

Guest · Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2005 4:56 pm Post subject:

Yes. No question about it. Very Happy

LilMissTragic · Expert User Joined: Sep 05, 2004 Posts: 803

Yes ya gotta go...dont live with any regrets!