life going nowhere

virtue · Newbie User Joined: Apr 23, 2007 Posts: 32

i am 23 years old pretty much unemployed and have chronic anxiety,while everyone around me seems to be happy and living interesting lives i am stuck in a vicious cycle of anxiety, alcohol,loneliness and depression,i cant get close to anyone really and am not even comfortable around my family anymore my only hapiness comes from being drunk,i had a girlfriend who was the only person who really knew me but i lost her cause of my anxiety,cause she was very social and ended up cheating on me,having a girl was what kept me going but now i feel ill be lonely forever,i know i have so much to give but i am trapped in my own personal hell

SocialRetahd · Expert User Joined: Dec 02, 2006 Posts: 762

We are roughly the same age (I'm 22), and I suck too because of anxiety. So you are not alone there.

bsarahjane · Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 3:23 pm Post subject:

your not alone virtue havin read your post i can totally relate to what u are going through as its exactly the same things for me.All my friends are settled and sorted in their lives and mine seems to have no purpose because of my anxiety,paranoia and depression im stuck i cant hold down a job or anything and im just sitting in my house feeling like im wanting to give up because im so anxious and paranoid. im meant to be starting a confidence building course on Thursday only for 2 hours in the evening once a week i really am goin to try and fight my anxiety's etc and attend if i don't manage to attend the ten sessions ill be happy i attended some.Im going to see my doctor again on Wednesday and going to ask for help to be referred back to the mental health team coz i cant just wait around to be seen by a psychologist in a years time coz of the long waiting lists

elProscrito · Newbie User Joined: Aug 22, 2005 Posts: 37

hey i know what you feel. i'm twenty two and i feel like beacause of my sp my life is screwed up and i will never be able to fix it. i've been fighting with sp for over 5 yrs and sometimes i felt like i made some progress but now i feel like i'm going nowhere. i'm desperately trying to find a girlfriend coz i've never had one coz i'm the dullest guy imaginable. i feel like i will never be able to find a group of friends to hang out with and will never be considered normal.
life sucks

prince1 · Intermediate User Joined: Feb 14, 2007 Posts: 177

Scottish_Player · Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:33 pm Post subject:

Hi virtue, sorry to hear your feeling how you are, one thing that helped me get over that feeling was to set myself goals and acheivements, somthing to aim towards, this will give you a purpose in life and something to get up for in the morning.

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joshueg · Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 8:15 pm Post subject:

Hi, Virtue! You have said something very positive of yourself, "i know i have so much to give". That is very good, but i think that apart from having so much to give (others) you have to give that much to yourself too, virtue.
You have to think more about yourself, about what you can do for yourself.
I think sport is very good for releasing anxiety. That is not the solution but keeps you from being more anxious. I am running softly every day.
I think you should do something like that, or you can walk or ride a bike, etc , i don ' t know, but i know that kind of activity keeps you from thinking too much, the more you think, the more anxious you get.
Wink

Tarcus · Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 5:10 am Post subject: Re: life going nowhere

noodle · Newbie User Joined: Apr 13, 2007 Posts: 7

Hey you,

I'm 22 years old and have had SA for the last seven. There are times I hate myself and life so much and worst of all don't see a way out of anxiety and managing my emotions. SA can be such an isolating experience and I think there is no worse condition for human beings than isolation.
I'm starting a support group in Sydney cause I want to become pro-active about my recovery and help others and myself along the way. Sharing is liberating. You should come along if you are a local. My email is madame_de_morville@hotmail.com

Best of luck,
noodle

Soya · Newbie User Joined: Jun 16, 2007 Posts: 8

Sounds all to familier we have become our own worst enemies i wish i could give you some advice while we piss away another yet another weekend. Ill try anyway, take small steps firstly find a good job that makes you push your boundaries and continue to do this with every aspect of your life small steps and remember

IT IS NEVER TO LATE TO BE WHAT YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN.

Good luckkkkk mate.