Who would you date?

eka82 · Posted: Sat Jan 24, 2004 4:16 pm Post subject: Who would you date?

I have a question for fellow SA's, would you prefer to date someone with SA or someone "normal"?

I would like to hear what you guys think....

Secret_Smile · Posted: Sun Jan 25, 2004 8:20 pm Post subject:

It doesn't really matter I suppose. You can't help who you fall for. But If you were to go out with someone with SA on the plus both of you will have some understanding of how you both feel and can maybe even try to help eachother in trying to overcome it.

ella · Newbie User Joined: Dec 01, 2003 Posts: 17

I think it`s better to date someone without SP, who understands you well enough and pulls you out of it by draging you into society.Otherwise it would be like two drug addicts dating eachother-what good could it produce?

Someday · Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2004 2:43 am Post subject:

I have never dated someone with SA. And I never told anyone I had SA because I never knew the name for it. So it's hard to say if I'd feel comfortable dating someone who has SA. In some ways I think I'd feel uncomfortable. But yet agian maybe not. So yeah if the opportunity arose to date someone with sa I would. At least you'd have each other instead of being all alone.

wacomtablet · Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2004 11:28 pm Post subject:

i have never dated anyone, and know that i never will.

MarCPatt

I think that it is better to give someone who is a good person a chance regardless of whether they have SA or not. Cool

spacecadet · Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2004 5:17 pm Post subject: never say never

Its hard to tell who you'd date you have to meet all kinds and sometimes you may be suprised by the type you go for. I'm very choosey anyway myself but I would go out with some one who I clicked with SA or no SA. I think its true you can't help who you fall for

Guest · Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2004 10:04 pm Post subject:

Well I've been in both situations.
Honestly, being in the relationship with a fellow sufferer is far more comfortable and rewarding than being in a relationship with a frustrated "normal" person.

Instead of feeling the constant pressure to fit into a "normal" relationship, being unhappy, and not having a truly understanding partner, I feel nothing but comfort and support which in turn, allows us both to explore things we normally may not have. I feel stronger when we're together.

Guest · Posted: Tue Jun 08, 2004 6:49 am Post subject:

I'd rather date someone with SA, or someone who at least had a really good understanding of what it is like.

Maybe that's because I've have quite a few "normal" people in my life try to force me into doing things I didn't want to do. I have two brothers who are totally clueless what it's like to suffer from SA. In fact, one of my brother's once said, "Just get over it". WTF?

Crimefish · Posted: Sun Jun 20, 2004 10:13 am Post subject:

Well, another person with SA would understand me better, but we'd both become hermits...
A "normal" would maybe make me more confident... if I was thinking about him the whole time I was out, I wouldn't be worrying about what everyone else thought.

It'd be nice to find a happy medium, though... someone who made me more confident AND understood my problems.