Joined: Dec 01, 2004 Posts: 132 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Mon May 21, 2007 9:16 am Post subject: Peoples reactions to you...
How do you cope with the people around you?
I have just moved house and have 2 children so i am expected to be chatty and social.........I find this really difficult.
Because i tend to think people dont like me or notice im different to them it makes me feel nervouse . I think some of my neighbours have picked up on it and have started being really shit, like making sure we carnt park our car outside our house and i heard one of them mimic me the other day
Has any one else experienced things like this ? It makes me feel really edgy when i have to walk down my street
i know how you feel,and i find it very hard to relate to other people especially strangers.
i must admit im getting alot better bout walking down the street,and i know youve heard this before but its very important to keep forcing yourself to walk down the road,also try listening to a walkman or something thats helped me loads,i can actually walk down the road without it now,which i never thought i could ever do,so you must keep doing it honestly or else it will just get worse and worse
Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 6:30 pm Post subject: Re: Peoples reactions to you...
blue wrote:
How do you cope with the people around you? (
I'm not chatty, either. Sometimes I try to plan ahead. It helps if I have thought of maybe 3 topics that I might use either as a conversation starter or something to transition to if someone else has tried to start a conversation with me. It might be a TV program I saw, a movie I read about, or something on the front page of the newspaper. I just need to have something I think I can say 3 or 4 sentences about or a question I can ask that I think will give the other person an opportunity to talk about in response. Ideally, what will follow will be a normal conversation of at least a few minutes, but sometimes it just comes out awkward and there are just sentence fragment answers that don't result in a conversation.
Sometimes i do this stupid thing, i pretend i dont see people i know, or i pretend i dont recognize them, its not because i am a bad person its just i am afraid of rejection, so i reject them first. The result is i give a prety bad impression of myself, and it ends up in rejection any way. They reject me because i am pretty stupid, so the thing iam afraid in the first place happens anyway.
So i cant cope whith people very well.
Joined: May 04, 2006 Posts: 248 Location: New Jersey
Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 7:43 pm Post subject:
I get confrontational when someone gives me crap, I just moved to a new town in a new state and dyed my hair bright red and some horrible girls outside of a restaurant started pointing, laughing and giggling... so I got all confrontational and told them where to go.
Other than that i'm a pretty nice person but fairly quiet, If someone says hi i'll say hi back and I do smile at people. This all used to be more difficult than it is now. If i'm with a group of people I don't know I like to kind of blend into the background and not say too much, or just make people laugh. That's kind of my thing.
But yeah, I like to be left alone and keep to myself basically, if people start giving me crap then I get pretty mad. I just hate judegmental people. Ohhh you've got tattoos, piercings and red hair! Dun dun dunnn! haha.
Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 9:20 pm Post subject: Re: Peoples reactions to you...
blue wrote:
How do you cope with the people around you?
I have just moved house and have 2 children so i am expected to be chatty and social.........I find this really difficult.
Because i tend to think people dont like me or notice im different to them it makes me feel nervouse . I think some of my neighbours have picked up on it and have started being really shit, like making sure we carnt park our car outside our house and i heard one of them mimic me the other day
Has any one else experienced things like this ? It makes me feel really edgy when i have to walk down my street
What did they actually say? What were they mimic-ing?
Why did you move to such a nasty area?
Move again?
Joined: May 04, 2006 Posts: 248 Location: New Jersey
Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 9:27 pm Post subject:
It is horrible living in an area with people like that. There's idiots like that here and they make me feel singled out when I go out by myself. I just can't stand narrow minded people. Argh it's getting me worked up talking about it
I want to move back to Cali or back home to England They're mean here!
Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 9:47 pm Post subject: Re: Peoples reactions to you...
blue wrote:
It makes me feel really edgy when i have to walk down my street
I just go out at night now................OR I watch if there are people around the house, if there are people I wait until they leave so I can go out or I wait until it gets dark.
My life is like that now, too bad but I hope it will change for better.
Hope your situation gets better or you move to a better place....
Sometimes i do this stupid thing, i pretend i dont see people i know, or i pretend i dont recognize them, its not because i am a bad person its just i am afraid of rejection, so i reject them first. The result is i give a prety bad impression of myself, and it ends up in rejection any way. They reject me because i am pretty stupid, so the thing iam afraid in the first place happens anyway.
So i cant cope whith people very well.
That's an interesting strategy, but i don't think it's the way out of avoindant personality.
I prefer to stay neutral and dont leave ANY impression to anybody.
In the past i played roles so to disociate myself and their reaction towards me. I was fooling myself into thinking that they thought that way about that character i created. Of course i got tired.
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