My 13 yr old son is being bullied

Johno · Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 6:34 pm Post subject:

I think its important to find out why they are treating your son this way. Most bullies have an agenda. It may well be that he is small. However, many small kids aren't bullied. I would imagine your son has the answer to this. Having him talk about it is the real challenge. In the mean time I would come down extremely hard on the school. Remind them strongly of their policy. If all else fails change schools. He should not have to put up with that crap.

FillyPhile · Newbie User Joined: Jan 15, 2008 Posts: 2

With boys, fighting back is a valid option. When I was in school, all you had to show was a willingness to fight and they would leave you alone. It may cost him a black eye and a fat lip, but he'll be respected.

Sorry if this offends some people, but this is the same advice I give my own sons (neither has ever had to fight).

Truther_Pro · Newbie User Joined: Apr 02, 2008 Posts: 6

joeljjison · Newbie User Joined: Mar 02, 2008 Posts: 27

"The school counselor tells him to ignore the bullies and to just walk away. After days and days of taunting and teasing he asks me how do you just ignore it? They "accidentally" bump into him."

Hmm, sounds familiar... and i'm sure its not just me in here! But school counselors are meant to be useless, as well as untrustworthy...

Dropping him out of PE sounds like plan... some say ask him first... i dont know theres pros and cons... if you ask him if he wants to... and then they dont let you take him out of pe he'll be dissapointed. well you know your son better than we do..

i imagine the teachers are blind to it, (either that or the bullies are smart... which would be worse imho)

i dont think taking him out of pe will fix the problem... just move it.... its like trying to part water... as soon as your hand is out , the water will sink back where it was... the bullies will find a void, and taunt him elsewhere. theres 2 ways to stop a bully i reckon... power, and guilt. power can take on any form... whether it be beating them up, causing trouble with their parents or teachers, or something more covert..

the problem is, its unlikely you can get sufficient attention from the teachers to deal out a punishment that will actually effect the bullies, without the situation getting really bad (ie your sons state of mind)

im beginning to think im too pessimistic to post in these threads.. thinking about it...

size doesn't mean fighting back isn't an option.. training can accomplish anything, even if you have two left hands... another pro is he may meet people who wouldn't mind beating up bullies... unlikely though...

also if its self defense to be practical.. its worth putting some thought into what (this is all hypothetical of course if hes up for it) he trains in..

Johno · Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 6:45 pm Post subject:

Something similar happened to my niece. We couldn't help her. Eventually her mum wised up and took her out of the school. It worked. She is doing really well now..

Kien · Posted: Fri Apr 11, 2008 6:52 pm Post subject:

I just wish the bullier could be really picked out then the police comes, searches the school and shoot them on sight, shoot to kill.

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IceNerveshatter · Newbie User Joined: May 28, 2008 Posts: 47

If I was in your situation I would go beat up some of those kids. It sounds fucked up, but hey--it would work. They would never see it coming either. Reminds me of Bad Santa. lol.