People being nice, regardless

den1 · Newbie User Joined: Dec 25, 2006 Posts: 88

I've got this mate who I've known for a few years, he's a bit older than me, he's 27 and I'm 24.

For some reason I have never been able to really be myself around him because I sometimes feel a bit intimadated because he is quite mature and a strong person, he wouldn't take shit from anyone.

He got me a job as a kitchen porter in a pub where he is head chef with another one of his mates who is simalar to him in a few ways.

When I'm working they will be messing around and being loud doing the crazy shit that I would usually do at home but for some reason I just clam up and can't really join in.

I might go a whole day without hardly saying 2 words but for some reason the other two guys there show me alot of respect and are really nice to me.

I don't really know why because I must come across as being a moody bastard or something but they always want me to go for a beer with them after work and even come in on my days off to meet up with them for a drink when they finnish which I do admit after a few beers I am a joker myself.

I was wondering if anyone else is similar in this way, that people seem to take a liking to you and you really don't know why.

Might be a bit of a shit post this one actually lol

StocksGuy · Newbie User Joined: Oct 24, 2007 Posts: 10

I kind of had a similar experiance when i was in high school. One semester in PE, there was a guy who always held off people from bullying me whenever he was around. While i'm not sure why, i think that it struck a nerve in him. Maybe in your case, you remind them of someone they know, or in some way remind them of themselves in someway, especially if they are identifying with you because of how they were when they were younger. Also, the guy you knew a while, maybe he guinuenly likes you. I mean, people like people who listin. If you don't talk much, maybe he thinks you are a good listiner and likes you to be there and simply doesn't realize y u are quiet. He might even be hoping to get you more comfortable so that you will be more talkative.

recluse · Posted: Mon Oct 29, 2007 8:53 pm Post subject:

I feel the same way. With some people i can be relaxed and quite talkative at times but other people who are confident make me nervous. I think i feel relaxed with people who have a similar personality to mine.

coriander1992 · Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 4:32 pm Post subject:

I get this quite a lot - people liking you for no reason.
I recently went on a summer camp, and I barely spoke to anybody unless spoken to, but I was in with the main group of friends, and they all liked me and stood up for me, even if they did think i was slightly weird.
Maybe it's a case of people feeling sorry for you?

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flake__ · Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 6:28 pm Post subject:

this is a good thread!

i avoid all the people living on the same floor as me at uni, so probs appear anti-social or snobby. Once at breakfast this girl recognised me and came over and introduced herself. I stammered a reply back without smiling and didn't talk for the whole of breakfast, cos of fear obviously, but appeared rude/grumpy. Then a couple of days later i heard the people on my floor about to start hammering on my door again, and the girl said, Oh no, i've met her, she's really nice. They left my door alone. I could have hugged her!

Some people are just lovely like that.

maggie · Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 8:13 pm Post subject: Re: People being nice, regardless

LaLaLa · Newbie User Joined: Oct 28, 2007 Posts: 48

haha, yeah. Some people just are. Embarassed

Itdoes make me feel bad because I don't know how to be sweet to them back and can't befriend them.

Back in school, when I first went to secondary, people were constantly trying to befriend me and make me smile but I still looked so boring, dull and blank-faced. Couldn't help it. Of course it put people off after some time. I'm too much of a waste of effort so can't blame them for not being patient with me. Confused

I was lucky to have some nice people in my class at the time. Later was hell... Mad

It's always the loud, talkative, confident ones that scare me most. It's impossible for me to be friends with those types. Rolling Eyes

ok...maybe it is possible but I would always feel intimidated and inferior with them around... I usedt o have this really loud friend and I could barely talk to her sometimes. Embarassed

I remember once there were a pair of siblings that used to come over to my house and play around, I would always lock myself up in my own room whilst they try to bash my door open. I hate it. The brother told me to open up the door cause his sister wanted to be friends with me. Embarassed

I felt so stupid but they were a little rude to be trying to force me out like that. Shocked

maggie · Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 8:20 pm Post subject:

LaLaLa · Newbie User Joined: Oct 28, 2007 Posts: 48

That reminds me of something else. My teacher once told a joke, I wasn't paying any attention to it so had no idea what they were talking about, then he looked at me and said, 'oh come on, it's a joke, goddamn it!' What? I wasn't even listening! Mad

Even if I didn't find it funny, so what? Confused

maggie · Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 8:34 pm Post subject: