Has shyness ever made you turn down a woman who wanted you?

Redrascal · Newbie User Joined: Nov 12, 2007 Posts: 10

i often stop and think , yeah maybe i should go for " insert random women name here".

but then i think i don't want to burden said woman with a person who has some sort of shyness problem.... so i don't and never have

PhantomPod · Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 5:48 am Post subject:

When I was maybe 15, a boy I knew from my neighborhood came knocking on my front door asking if I'd like to go to the movies with him, and I completed freaked out and said that I couldn't and said that my family was going camping for the weekend (we really were, but we weren't leaving for another day). I just completely turned him down like a jackass because I'd never been asked out before and I was caught off guard and didn't know what to do. He did ask for my number though and I did just give it to him, but then I would never answer when he would call and I finally just had my older brother tell his older brother that I wasn't interested in him and to please stop calling me. I really wasn't very interested in him, but I guess I really didn't give him much of a chance, but whatever. I just got all freaked out. And yes, 5 years later and I've never been asked out since. Sad.

Vancouver · Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 7:37 am Post subject:

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bella1968 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 07, 2007 Posts: 18

Why avoid someone you like that much??? I don't get it! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr Sad

rado31 · Expert User Joined: Sep 15, 2006 Posts: 686

Argamemnon · Expert User Joined: Jan 15, 2008 Posts: 609

I'm a 31-year-old male and not "ugly", but I've never had a girlfriend because of social phobia. But I really don't care at all. I just hate it when other people ask me if I'm married, or have a relationship... especially relatives; they stare at me as if I'm an alien.

I don't understand, it's none of their business? I'm definitely heterosexual, but I don't care about women, love or sex, because of my never-ending depressions and tremendous social anxiety. I'm not interested at all, I lack the energy. I feel nothing when I see a "beautiful"or "sexy" girl. I guess it's because life has little meaning to me, I don't know.

afton · Newbie User Joined: Jan 21, 2008 Posts: 3

What happened to me is usually I attract girls that I considered to be
friend only because I can act cool in front of them.
With the girls that I have a crush on, I lose all my acts and usually
I end up shooting my foot Sad

abcyesn · Newbie User Joined: Feb 03, 2008 Posts: 4

shyness has stop me from many things, women included.

What can I do???

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wrs2 · Newbie User Joined: Sep 28, 2008 Posts: 1

I thought I'd share a bit similar "love story". It was about 8 years ago when I was in high school (12th grade). A new girl came to our class at the beginning of the year and soon she started to send signs of interest towards me. At first I actually didn't like her that much but somewhere by the middle of the year I had a huge crush on her. The only problem was that I was too shy to let her know. I was now unable to look her into eyes and was even hardly able to look towards her face. I guess she pretty much thought that I am not interested in her. It seemed to me also that she was slowly loosing interest in me because I didn't respond to her in any way. I was very depressed because I felt that I can't change anything. My only comfort was to look (admire) her when she wasn't aware of me doing so. However even this was going to be soon to end since the highschool was ending.

There was only a couple of weeks left of the high school. One day when going home from the school I met her by chance at the bus stop. I thought that if I don't act now I have lost "the love of my life" forever. There could have been hardly a better moment for talking with her. It demanded a huge act of courage from me but I managed to ask her if she could have a walk with me so we could talk. She agreed.

At first, about 5-10 minutes, we exchanged sentences about this and that. All this time I was extremely anxious inside and my voice was a bit nervous (I just couldn't control it). Then I started to talk something like that I haven't had girlfriend before and that I am not sure if I want one since I am not sure if I'm able to be in a relationship. So I pretty much exposed my low confidence. In my head hammered the thought that with this kind of talk I surely can't be successful. But something just forced me to shoot myself in foot. She obviously didn't like what she heard and asked If I am waiting her to boost up my confidence. If I recall correctly I didn't respond to this question. The conversation lasted some more sentences and then she announced that she must hurry now and left.

I was extremely depressed and angry to myself since I was sure that I had destroyed every chance I had. Next day in school I wasn't able to look towards her face at all (although I really wanted to). I don't know If she wanted to contact me but even if she did then she obviously was completely discouraged when seeing that I was avoiding her.

I became more depressed and was really desperate. After few days I decided to contact her and to try to explain. I didn't know what to say but felt that I must try. However she clearly let me know, that she does not want to interact with me. Obviously I seemed to her somekind of psycho or something. Life is hard for the love shy.

Kien · Posted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 9:58 pm Post subject:

Gosh just hearing the phrase "woman attracted to you"... I can't imagine it. Impossible. Can it really happen? How can one even say a such sentence?

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