Online crush

alex29 · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 15, 2007 Posts: 145

I have a huge crush on someone I know only online. He lives hundreds of miles away and the chances of us having a relationship are very slim.

I really want to meet him. I've told him I'm shy and not as confident as I come off online, and he says he thinks I show him the real me and that it will come out just because he already knows that side of me. Ive known him for a long time

But I'm still afraid that if/when I meet him I will go back in my shell and be boring. I won't be able to make him laugh like I do online, and he'll be disappointed with who I am.

I also wonder if maybe the only reason I like him so much is because he is the only guy who has ever told me I'm beautiful, lovable, makes him laugh. He even told me he loved me a while ago. There is no doubt in my mind that he really likes me (the love I'm not sure yet since we haven't met) and I'm just afraid that this is me being desperate.

I'm afraid that the side of me he loves so much will shatter in front of his eyes if we meet.

And for the really embarassing part of it, I like to pretend he's the pillow I hug and kiss at night. Embarassed

I can't believe I'm saying this Laughing

millymoocow · Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2007 6:43 am Post subject:

wow, this sounds like a beautiful relationship. Very Happy

he sounds like a great guy. well just be yourself when/if you meet him. if you get stuck for things to say, bring up something you were chatting about online that he was interested in. Cool

if he really feels like he knows you, he won't reject you, and you'll find it easy being around him. but yeah it's really hard to talk to guys, or really anyone, when you are really shy like this. try to be yourself and if he is worthwhile, he will understand you and be patient with you. Smile

and maybe he'll move in with you if things go really well? Very Happy

good luck! Wink

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alex29 · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 15, 2007 Posts: 145

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Danfalc22 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 17, 2007 Posts: 47

Aww this post is so cute Very Happy

specialy the pillow part... but anyway shynobody gave some good advice so im not gonna repeat whats already been said.Cept ive had a few online relationships aswell.. and they are hard and dont always work out.. but at the same time neither do alot of real life ones so i dont think you have anything to loose.. and i think ya should go for it,the longer you keep the relationship online the more hard it will be after a while.

And i wouldnt worry about not knowing what to say ect or feeling like ya gonna come across boring,its a big thing ya bound to be nervous.. ya seem a really sweet person and if this guy really loves you it wont matter what you do or dont say Smile

If its that hard to talk at first just take a walk holding hands.. leap on him and hug him to death lol.. so he knows ya like him (because he is probaly be just as nervous) and a lil affection can break the ice then just wait till it feels comfortable to talk.If your too scared to talk you could even just txt him while your with him.. anyway good luck hope it works out for ya

alex29 · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 15, 2007 Posts: 145

we're not in a "relationship" now, but we've chatted for 5+ years. we're in college now and i really want to meet him (i know he's who he says he is and all that). I am definately waiting to meet him before telling him how I feel. i know he wants to meet me too. i've had these feelings for so long i feel like i'm about to explode Sad

I didnt put this in the first post because it doesnt have anything to do with my shyness but...what if when I tell him he has feelings back for me, where would the relationship go from there? if we do get into a bf/gf relationship I fear that would be harder to keep up because of the distance. it's hard enough just being friends! anyway this is stuff we would have to work out if it turns out we do love each other.

thx for your advice Very Happy

Danfalc22 · Newbie User Joined: Nov 17, 2007 Posts: 47

Im gonna try and keep this short and to the point or ill end up ranting on about how sweet this post is Smile

What happens if it turns out you both have feelings for each other when you do meet? Well like ya said.. its hard enough keeping a friendship over the net,but youve done it for 5 years... i think you will both know whats right to do..and just like youve managed to keep a friendship together over the net,you will be able to find a way and keep a long distance relationship going if thats what you both really want. Smile

I think worst case situation is you meet but ya dont have the same feelings as you thought you would.. but i think you would both realise that if it wasnt the case.. and tbh after how long youve been speaking i think ya have a pretty good idea anyway, trust ya heart.

Sorry for the late reply,and give us an update if you do meet i so wanna know how it goes Very Happy

just spare us the the super soppy details cos soppyness is queezy unless your the involved party Laughing

Seriously tho good luck

alex29 · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 15, 2007 Posts: 145

lol thank you!! its a little embarrassing to talk to people about this, so I dont. just having a place to talk about it helps since Ive had it bottled up for all these years. I cant wait to see how it turns out

Shonen_Yo · Intermediate User Joined: Jun 07, 2006 Posts: 286

From my experience it always ends in pain.

M1tCh · Newbie User Joined: Jul 23, 2007 Posts: 66