It is a good thing that under it all you have a kind heart and are generally a pleasant person to be around. But you need to begin to build another facet to your personality: learn to bite back.
If somebody attacks you in any way, do the same to them. Don't worry about being 'better' than them or 'stooping down to their level', because we're all neutral human beings at the end of the day. The bullies are simply people who haven't worked out how to treat people yet.
And on your side, there are lessons to learn too: as I said, be stronger with them. Don't let it happen, and fight back. Believe me, counsellors and teachers and even parents don't want to get involved, because it gets too slippery a subject for them to really grasp (teenagers and children being an entirely alient species and all )
Once the bullies realise you're not having any of their rubbish, they'll stop piling it onto you.
To answer your question, perhaps a switch of schools would be helpful, but you need to do it in conjunction with the above so as not to repeat the pattern. True, you might not get a repetition, but anything you can do to guard against bullying in future will help you.
I agree. If you move, and don't change anything about your behaviour, the same might happen again. You're still in 9th grade, so your reputation isn't ruined yet, you can still change it a lot. I say fight! And win. You'll learn an important skill in life and your reputation will be clean. But maybe they'll just get tired of it pretty quickly, so you might just try waiting it out, and people will soon forget about it. Either way, your reputation will be clean. But then I haven't been bullied physically ever, or even verbally too harshly, so I don't know what you should do honestly.
Posted: Thu Jul 31, 2008 12:50 am Post subject: Get help.. It means your being harrassed.
It sounds like you are too easy for them. Do you show anger or anything when they do anything to you?
If so, that is your problem. I am a peer mediator AND a certified internet safety instructor. These both courses, were some how affiliated with bullying.
The main thing which attracts bullying, is being bothered by it. If you are bothered by some kids talking bad to you, pushing you, spreading rumors about you, they know you are very easy to get to. So, that tells them to do it again. If your bothered by it, they LOVE to see that!
They get a laugh out of it!
Next time someone does anything to you, don't be bothered by it. Let it slip.. If that is not the case, tell them to stop it. Just tell them once, because you tell them more than once, it shows them your being bothered by it. Then, if that does not work, it is called harrassment. In schools, that can be a fine.. It will also get them inspelled. I had a kid do that to me once. Maybe in 4th grade, some kid kept bullying me. He threatened to put a broom down my head. I told the principal right after lunch, which then got him inspelled. He came back to our high school, last year. Supposingly, he didn't get kicked out of the school district, but the middle school. Well, right now, I'm bigger than him, and better than he is in Karate.
So, as I was saying before I interrupted myself, if a bully doesn't stop after you tell them to, go to the principal, or your teacher. Tell them. They will listen. Then, they will meet with the bully, and then do whatever they have to do...
I hope this helps!
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Buddy, don't listen to anyone saying switch schools. Do NOT! DO NOT!! It will create the most amount of trouble. The bullies will do EVERYTHING they can! they will post a video on the news, about you pussying out. DO not! I swear. Being bullied, does NOT mean you need to switch schools. You do NOT have to switch schools for them to stop. Do NOT! I'm telling you buddy. Do NOT!!!!!! If you do, it's not going to stop them. I can gurantee you that.
If you need anymore advice you are unsure of, message me!
Thanks!
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Also, people saying about having friends and being bullied. "If you don't have friends, and your being bullied, move to another school." NO!! Haven't your mothers taught you? And your teachers? In high school, it does NOT matter how much friends you have. Don't have friends! Be alone! It's not, "if you have friends, your the coolest one". NO! Your friends in high school don't matter. Everyone chooses their seperate ways when you graduate. No friends are together. Very rarely..
Hey i really feel for you. i used to get picked on at school. I ended up leaving school as soon as i could. i lost all my self atstem.
Maybe moving schools would help you. But build your confidence up.
It may make you feel alot better.
The bullies I knew from high school were druggies (for the most part) who ended up doing nothing with their lives after high school.
My advice to you is to just ignore them and strive to do your best in school. You'll end up having a lot more to be proud of 10 years from now than they will, trust me. [/i]
There are always bullies at every single school, dozens of them. Some for outcasts, goth, fat, ugly, stupid, ect. Either have your mom spend $1000s of dollars for online or home schooled. When this happened to me the school paid for a teacher to home school me but last year they stopped and left me hanging. The only solution known so far is to go get a gun. Literaly is the only solution tho =). I mean it literaly is unless your rich(then you can hire a guy to shoot em up =). Everything else either makes it worse(have somebody talk to bullies for u and tell em to stop) or just find new maybe worse bullies(changing schools). Im not saying do it, im just laying down the fact its the only bully problem that was ever settled.
You could work out and bunch and just jump him one night and beat him silly, wait then he gets his dozen friends to do the same. Nevermind.
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