Why are you shy ?

TAMPA-BAY · Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 6:54 am Post subject: Why

Wow thats a challenging question.

Hmmm I ve been shy as long as I can remember. My biggest barrier has alwayse been social situation because my mind just goes too fast or too slow. Either my mind goes completely blank or it just goes into over analizing mode. I ll be in a social situation and I cant think of any thing to say or I ll be sitting there and I simply cant relax.

Honestly most of us probaly arent sure why.

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zlench · Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2008 2:46 pm Post subject:

I have very little social skills. I have no idea what I'm going to say to people or how to start a coverstation. Sad

spw · Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2008 1:31 am Post subject:

I try to think back and i cant remember a time when i wasnt shy, when i wasnt the quiet one.

I cant understand how my brother is confident and outgoing, he has a ot of friends. Why did it happen to me?

I can think of one event whcih did make this A LOT of worse, but thse feelings have always been with me even before that. I dont know why. It kind of makes me even more scared to want to seek help because the person might think im just wasting their time as i dont know all the reasons why i feel this way or why i act the way i do.

Infected_Malignity · Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2008 2:17 am Post subject:

i'm shy because i have a terrible fear of looking stupid, plain and simple. not really sure where it started, but i've finally been able to pinpoint it. i guess i feel insecure when it comes to intellect - not because i'm as stupid as i make myself out to be, but because i'm average and that's hard for be to accept. that also goes for even being perceived as a moron or doing something out of line... even though i know none of this crap even matters in the real world, i still live every day of my life trying to avoid it.