Danfalc22 wrote:
Kien wrote:
Uhm... you're not serious? Why would it hurt? Pushing babies out is known to hurt but making them?
It can really hurt the first time for girls mate,they can bleed quite badly somtiimes aswell.Is it the hymen or somthing?Anyway Specialy if the girl is young and its her first time.
Its actually got nothing to do with the girl being young, for some girls it will hurt and for some it will notgirls have a hymen which is broken when they have sex for the first time and there 'little' inside as they have not yet had sex so the hole gets stretched also. They don't always bleed some do some dont, i did a tiny little bit but it also didn't hurt that much for me but it can hurt a lot for other girls.
_________________ I wish we could see into the future of peoples lives when they are born. Then we could kill all babies who's going to be bad people. Robbers, bullying kids, murderers etc. Just put a gun at the baby's head.
Kien, chill out. You need to back off and take some time to relax or something.
I'm a guy so no personal experience, but...girls can break their hymen during masturbation and if she's really scared she can do it herself prior to sex for the first time
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Posted: Fri Apr 04, 2008 7:53 am Post subject:
Yep, I'm still scared that I will stuff up in some way and embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend (I'm 31) but have had sex about 4 times- all with pros and under the influence of pot. The first couple of times I went I couldn't get hard I was so anxious so no go.The girls were sympathetic which made me feel even worse. Then I tried another time after a smoke and it was better and did the deed. Have not had sex since (about 3 years) and would like to but still panic a bit when it seems it will happen and then avoid it. S.A has got to one the most f****d things to have (I'm starting an SSRI for the 1st time so hope it helps and I can get on with stuff).
Kien, chill out. You need to back off and take some time to relax or something.
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_________________ I wish we could see into the future of peoples lives when they are born. Then we could kill all babies who's going to be bad people. Robbers, bullying kids, murderers etc. Just put a gun at the baby's head.
Its actually got nothing to do with the girl being young, for some girls it will hurt and for some it will notgirls have a hymen which is broken when they have sex for the first time and there 'little' inside as they have not yet had sex so the hole gets stretched also. They don't always bleed some do some dont, i did a tiny little bit but it also didn't hurt that much for me but it can hurt a lot for other girls.
So why would it not hurt?
Yeah ive never claimed to be an anatomy expert on the female reproduction system lol... I didnt say all girls do bleed... if you read my post i say some CAN And yeah that was my point about young girls... im not saying it doesnt hurt for older girls but thats why i said specialy for there first time and if there young because its more likley they have less experience.I understand its because there streched i was just trying to explain it as smply as possible for kien.And so why would it not hurt?Im not the person saying it wouldnt.
Anyway Sorry for trying to help
And jim_B... im sure alot of young girls probaly do experiment with somthing first to see how it would be,its human nature after all.If your asking about the hymen?... i think that it can often get broken sometimes anyway before sex so..anyway ya might be better asking someone else i dont wanna get lectured again.
Just the thought of having sex is making me anxious. My mind goes completely blank when people talk to me, so I can't imagine how bad it would be when trying to have sex. I'm not normal, and this is not curable. Resigning to my fate is the only remedy.
The population of the world is huge and i think it's true that there's someone for everyone.
I sort of agree. I don't really believe in the whole "soulmate" thing, as in there is one person in the world who is "perfect" for another person, like they were destined to be together. But I do believe that there are so many people in this world, that everyone who wants a mate can get one. I think it should be: "There are more than enough people for everyone."
As for being afraid of sex, I am definitely not (I'm a sex addict, kind of part of my OCD-ness), but I have had problems before, not being premature but sometimes being unable to keep a hard-on. I attribute most of this to drugs and drinking, but it also may have had a little to do with my choice of sexual partners at the time. I find I mostly had this problem with people I didn't really care for. In other words, I didn't really know them well, and decided to have sex with them because I found them attractive and not because I particularly liked them.
As someone else in this thread already suggested, if you find someone who you care for and who cares for you and you understand each other and feel comfortable with each other, your sex will most likely be problem free. And even if it isn't, I'd imagine it'd be easier to deal with if it's someone who you trust and care for and who treats you with respect.
Someone mentioned feeling ugly and that this caused them sexual anxiety, but "ugly" is not an all-encompassing word that defines a person. I think it's important to remember that everyone is attracted to different things, and a lot of whether someone perceives you as "ugly" or not has to do with the way you carry yourself. In other words, if you think you're hot (or act like you think you're hot) then others will think you're hot too. Maybe not everyone, but that's life.
I'm sure celebrities like Sandra Bernhard, The Spice Girls, Owen Wilson and Mick Jagger would never have been considered remotely good-looking if not for the way they carried themselves.
I mean come on, I could throw a rock out my window and hit a girl hotter than any of the Spice Girls! It's all about attitude. And obviously, in the case of celebrities it is also about money and marketing, but you get my point hopefully.
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And yeah that was my point about young girls... im not saying it doesnt hurt for older girls but thats why i said specialy for there first time and if there young because its more likley they have less experience.I understand its because there streched i was just trying to explain it as smply as possible for kien.And so why would it not hurt?Im not the person saying it wouldnt. 
