Mimmicking Other Peoples Personality

Scoutabout · Newbie User Joined: Apr 18, 2008 Posts: 12

I see nothing wrong with you mimicking some of the traits of the people you like. Obviously, it's because you admire certain things about them that you try to be like them. Just don't try to be exactly like them or it will backfire on you, because other people will see that you are "copying" (too much) and will find it "fake". Why not copy just one or two of the traits you admire most about someone? We decide what kind of people we want to be - kind, generous, trusting, greedy, mean, deceptive, etc. It's simply about you deciding what kind of person you want to be - that is, what traits or values do you want to have as a person? You are not really "copying" in a sense, because there are only so many ways for a person to be, and many, many people share many, many traits and values in common. There are also the interests that you share. Now it would be "fake" of me, for example, to act like I'm real interested in football when I don't have the slightest interest in it. However, I have a passion for dancing and art. Therefore, my friends tend to be people who have these same passions. So it wouldn't make sense for you to make friends with people you have nothing in common with, then try to "emulate" them just because you think it might make you more "popular" or something. That would be truly fake. So make friends with people you have something in common with, or who have traits you admire and would like to emulate. Let's say you are not very outgoing, but make friends with someone who is. It is not "fake" if you are trying to learn from them to be more outgoing yourself, because this is something you truly want to be. I know, because I did that very thing, and greatly benefited from the friendship with that person, because I learned from them how to be more outgoing. So you can also make friends with those people who have a trait that you lack, but wish you had. Learn from them, and pretty soon, you will have that particular trait that you desire for yourself.