Joined: Feb 08, 2008 Posts: 81 Location: Daegu, South Korea
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 2:56 pm Post subject: Fuck buddies?
Does anyone one here have a fuck buddy? Just curious... don't know if this is a bad thing to ask but... maybe I've met some people I've been interested in just having a physical relationship with but not anything else. Has anyone else here ever had this or wanted this... you know as an in between while you alone and lonely?
I feel like I NEED some kind of "companionship" for a while, until I get find someone interesting enough to date. But as a single female I find that maybe I'm at a loss with this.
Thoughts? Similar situations?
I can't possibly be alone... someone on here has to have done this! would you recommend?!
Sometimes I REALLY NEED a little something ... would it be so wrong... or would that just open a whole new can of worms.... whenever I get like this I feel like calling up this guy I fooled around with after a drunken night at the bar... he's asked me to "come home with him" a few times... but I don't know.... if I knew it were JUST sex I would be OK... or if I knew he wanted more I would even be OK... Jesus! I Just need some lovin"!!! is anyone else out there with me?!
What should I do? should I call when I'm in the mood... or should I leave this alone?!?
_________________ "There is a girl in New York City who calls herself the human trampoline, and sometimes when I'm falling, flying or tumbling in turmoil I say, 'Whoa, so this is what she means.'"
- Paul Simon
Joined: Jul 23, 2006 Posts: 346 Location: -Gulf of Mexico-
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 3:47 pm Post subject: fuck budies
Bold; but beautyful topic Edith. I like the way we can discuss all sorts of relevant topic on this site. Most of us on here lack expierence so its nice to be able to see stuff like this.
My question to you edith is you seem willing to be with the person so why not just date then regulary? Why just a one nighter?
Iam not going to judge people who have friends with benifits BECAUSE if you put me and many of the others in a situations like that; I wonder what they would actualy do. Its pretty dam easy to say doing a one night stand is wrong but If many people had the chance they might be supprised at what they do.
I heard relationship built on sex are a "house of cards" but since you are not talking about relationship then I guess it should be ok.
If you are ok with one nighter then go for it just BE Warned. Every behavior has its hidden cost.
I suppose not doing anything also has its hidden cost such as regretting that you misst an oppourtunity.LOL
Joined: Apr 07, 2008 Posts: 56 Location: 19/m/North Shore, MA
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 4:05 pm Post subject:
Nah, I don't do that. I'm too sentimental. I need to commit to someone if I am to ever get into a physical relationship. You'd think girls would love that, but apparently not...
_________________ Whoever battles with monsters had better see that it does not turn him into a monster. And if you gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you.
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I'd be down. I can't see anything more than a little drama here and there.
I'm a guy and if a girl called me up and asked me for a one night stand I'd be stoked.....just throwing that out there.
EDIT: I just re-read that and no, I'm not saying what you think. I'm just trying to give her a guys perspective......but lets not rule anything out hahaha
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I kinda get the feeling that people will be able to guess what my answer's going to be- that's probably a bad thing, but still.
It's not wrong- if mutually consentual and in full understanding- because there is nothing immoral about it. I was actually thinking about this just about 10 mins ago (believe it or not). For me, I don't even think it's sex that is essential, but just intimacy and affection. god friggin damn it have I been starved/starved myself of that affection for so long. Though my own company ranks pretty highly on the list of company I like to keep, it gets lonely.
Some of my mates claim to have had 'fuck buddies', but they're mostly liars- this I know.
Joined: Jul 23, 2006 Posts: 346 Location: -Gulf of Mexico-
Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 8:06 pm Post subject: fuck budies
I have another questions. What if something goes wrong? Then what? I mean I know people try to use protection but S***T happens . Lets say you and him had a few beers and got so drunk you forgot to use good judgement? Then what.
Joined: Feb 08, 2008 Posts: 81 Location: Daegu, South Korea
Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 12:53 am Post subject: Re: fuck budies
TAMPA-BAY wrote:
I have another questions. What if something goes wrong? Then what? I mean I know people try to use protection but S***T happens . Lets say you and him had a few beers and got so drunk you forgot to use good judgement? Then what.
Exactly. Logic and paranoia kind of prevent me from going through with this kind of thing... also I want a relationships at some point, but just not necessarilly with this guy. Relationship sex would be ideal... (but hot booty-call sex would be a fair second...)
So if anyone is curious, I did NOT call him up last night... but I was DAMN tempted to. I know there is nothing wrong with a casual fling, but maybe for me I wouldn't be able to make that kind of thing work out. Maybe that has nothing to do with SA, but a lot of us on here are kind of STARVED for human interaction, and can not even remember the last time they were even TOUCHED by another human being in ANY way... so does that make this maybe more of an option for us? ... we have "different" circumstances maybe...
_________________ "There is a girl in New York City who calls herself the human trampoline, and sometimes when I'm falling, flying or tumbling in turmoil I say, 'Whoa, so this is what she means.'"
- Paul Simon
Joined: Mar 31, 2008 Posts: 41 Location: New Jersey, USA
Posted: Fri May 09, 2008 1:35 am Post subject: Re: Fuck buddies?
Edith wrote:
I feel like I NEED some kind of "companionship" for a while, until I get find someone interesting enough to date. But as a single female I find that maybe I'm at a loss with this.
.... if I knew it were JUST sex I would be OK... or if I knew he wanted more I would even be OK... Jesus! I Just need some lovin"!!! is anyone else out there with me?!
One question you should ask yourself is, do you want "more" with him? Are you thinking about being fuckbuddies with him because you hope it will lead to more? Or is he the only guy paying attention to you right now?
If you sleep together enough times, one of you WILL get attached, possibly you.
Does he have a girlfriend? Can you handle the idea of finding out that he has one behind your back? Or, the two of you decide not to commit to anything, and then he gets a gf, could you handle not being able to be with him?
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