ACM, that's great that you are seeing the good things that came out of a bad experience! You're right that sometimes it is the bad experiences that make us better people. I hate to see anybody being bullied, but if it's going to happen, you might as well learn from it, make the best of it and use it to your advantage. Why let the bullies have the last laugh?
I'm sorry but I will have to agree with IceNerveshatter. Truth is that bullying ruins most people's lives. At the age of 10 or 11 or even 15 people are still at least a bit vulnerable to both oral and physical abuse. Especially girls. You can't expect from a girl (like me) to hear she's ugly and a loser and to not feel bad.
Being bullied by 4 guys for three whole years made me hate men. Not people like IceNerveshatter did, but men. I don't trust them, I think bad of most of them, I think they don't deserve my love by default. That's bullying got me. And I'm sure every man who reads this will understand.
Bullying doesn't help. It's crap no one should ever go through.
Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 5:39 am Post subject: Re: Bullying Can be a Good Thing!
ACM wrote:
I know bullying is perceived to be a bad thing, and it is.
However, as an 18 year-old I've learnt that bullying is something to learn from. I was bullied through high school between the ages of 11-15, but I'm now very happy I was bullied. I've learnt an awful lot about dealing with bullies by MYSELF. I never ever told anyone that I was being bullied. The bullying included name calling and physical violence. If anything, all the bullying I got through school has helped me succeed as a person now. I'm no longer scared of people in any shape or form, my mental strength has increased a lot in the last 4 years. I thank the bullies a lot for that. I've learnt how to draw inspiration from negative comments. I get on with my own thing, I'm proud of who I am, and no one will stop me now.
But yeah, the public advice would be to tell someone about it first, but I disagree. Deal with bullying by going to the gym, releasing those endorphins, telling yourself you're bigger and better than any of those bullies, and look at the negative sides of those bullies, that will make you feel better.
That's great to look at being bullied in the past in a positive light but you shouldn't be thanking the bullies under any circumstance (unless you're a masochist) They didn't do anything to help you heal. You did that by yourself. The bullies slashed you up and got away with it, without facing any consequences whatsoever for their bad deeds. Never forget that.
To have a bully, there has to be a victim. Lots pf people like their victim status. When you are at school, if you are unlucky and are bullied, most people have no, or few choices then. However, as an adult it is your responsibility as to whether it motivates you, or you hold on tight to be one of lifes eternal victims.
Bullying is despeciable, adult victims lack the ability to take responsibility for their emotions and pasts. As an adult to blame a now unhappy life on childhood bullying is puting yourself in a place where you draw away responsibility for your own path in life.
I was bullied at school and at home. I am where I am in life because of me, not anyone else. What I experienced was life as it is, some parts made me stronger, others broke my soul, but that is my responsibility. I would not give the people that brought me to a point that I cut myself as a twelve year old any power over me.
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