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Frank_90 Newbie User


Joined: Jun 06, 2008 Posts: 1
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Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 9:36 am Post subject: WHAT IS SCARY ABOUT LEAVING YOUR HOUSE!!! |
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I suffer from agoraphobia, but the worst it gets for me is when in public I get frightened that I'm going to have a panic attack, which usually leads to one, but I am slowly fighting this problem and haven't had one in a while.
I was just wondering how someone gets from my situation to not being able to leave their own home?
I myself understand my fears and how I react when exposed to them, and I was wondering what it is that scares you about leaving your house... even walking out the door?
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sabbath92003 Intermediate User


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Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 8:32 pm Post subject: |
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I think it's a gradual shrinking of one's comfort zones. But it is a hoax done to us by our own nervous systems. There really is nothing to be afraid of. Sure people can be assholes, but we can learn to deal with that. Shutting ourselves off to the world is just not worth it. If we avoid our lives due to fear, what exactly are we protecting then?
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sicklybutnot Newbie User


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Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: Re: WHAT IS SCARY ABOUT LEAVING YOUR HOUSE!!! |
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| Frank_90 wrote: | I suffer from agoraphobia, but the worst it gets for me is when in public I get frightened that I'm going to have a panic attack, which usually leads to one, but I am slowly fighting this problem and haven't had one in a while.
I was just wondering how someone gets from my situation to not being able to leave their own home?
I myself understand my fears and how I react when exposed to them, and I was wondering what it is that scares you about leaving your house... even walking out the door? |
by doing the opposite of what you're doing... by not "fighting back"...
imagine that you believed you'd have a panic attack whenever you went to the mall, you'd start to anticipate it at the doors... but then if you stopped going to the mall all together, you'd start feeling anxious whenever you were near the mall... so then you start avoiding that area.... and so on... until you start feeling anxious whenever you leave the house... until you just stop leaving the house..
sorry, that was a little rambly.
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Lexmark Intermediate User


Joined: Jun 02, 2008 Posts: 277 Location: Australia
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Posted: Sat Jun 07, 2008 12:45 am Post subject: |
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For me its just easier to stay at home so I do.
If I ever feel like im gonna get a panic attack i just think about how relaxed i feel after one and it usually lessens the blow
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Psychedelicious Expert User


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that1guy Newbie User


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ya but what are you gonna do when your older? When you need to pull in a paycheck? When you need to prove people wrong? When you want to actually date somebody that actually understands you? see... I know its hard but you really need to find something to motivate you to do something with your life. And the first way you can do that is by just "throwing" yourself out there.
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asouthwest Newbie User


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Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 1:12 am Post subject: i know how u feel |
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i stay in the house and i use to leave just in the day time cause it seemed that i would only get pain attacks at night untill i had a full blow one in the daytime at walmart now i dont go any where just stay int he house and now it even happens at home sooo i have cut of almost all my friends and not even thinking bout a boyfriend i just dont kno why this had to happen to me
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Columba Newbie User


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i once had an attack in a very public place and fainted. the paramedics had to be called. when i came to, i was so humiliated. i just wanted to go home. everyone was staring at me.
i fear an episode like that and i fear having fear, perspiring too much, revealing my insecurity, seeing what i don't get to experience.
you're not alone.
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Avoidance Newbie User


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Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 4:04 am Post subject: |
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I've lost a lot to Agoraphobia, a whole lot. I even was stuck in my room for weeks, leaving only to go to the bath room. It's more then just motivation or laziness.
The only way I could explain it to some that doesn't understand is imagining going out side naked, or to the mall naked? Or being scared of heights and having to go sky diving just to get the mail. I'm working hard to get better and motivation is good for not falling backwards but it is a slow progression forwards. You don't want to throw a person out of plane who is scared of heights.
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Misterhopefull Newbie User


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| Avoidance wrote: |
The only way I could explain it to some that doesn't understand is imagining going out side naked, or to the mall naked? |
You might not want to use that "naked outside" comparison, a lot of people don't mind that.
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