I feel that way about guys; it's a problem because it will make you settle for so much less than you really want deep down. I always find myself with guys that treat me badly or that only want a 'fling', because I find it hard to believe that anyone would truly want me, because of my SA. The only advice I can offer you is to hold on and wait for someone who understands you, and not to settle, because settling will make you miserable. I like to believe in the old cliche that there's someone for everyone, so it might take a little patience, but you'll find her.
It's actually the way i feel about women... i just dont think i'm good enough for a nice lady whose good looking confident and caring.... it's not that i see myself as a bad guy... i just feel like she wouldnt want to be next to me cos of my vulnerability that is my SA..... She might treat me like a little brother and give me a hand to walk but she wouldnt ask me to come with her for going out and stuff cos she would think i'll get scared of it...It's actually a mental disorder on my part... i think i care too much about people who are nice to me... it makes me feel way too respectful cos i havent met many decent people in my life...
Actually mate i feel the same, but i dont have SA, just anxiety in general. I know im not a looker but i aint the ugliest guy in the world, im in shape and ive been told im a nice person to be around but i dunno what im doing wrong, it just seems my luck of finding a girl is well, i wont even go there.....
I also feel that there is nothing to offer women. I know for sure that I am not an attractive person. But I’m not ugly and definitely not stupid, despite that I may looking stupid because of my anxiety. On the other side, I have seen so many ugly, stupid bastards having pretty girlfriends. What they have offered them? Money or something else? Anyway, I have no wish to dig out in this question.
Now my confidence have reached the freezing point. I’m convinced that women aren’t interested in me. The more I am getting old the more I have the feeling that I have nothing to offer them.
If I theoretically assume that there is possibility for me to find woman interested in me, than what? She will want to know my past, including my relations. But I haven’t any relations. I have never been in a relationship. So, how the hell, I would tell to her about it. This is quite frustrating situation. Probably I’ll have to lie about this and to mention that I have had some short relationships regardless of that I haven’t. Otherwise she will not accept me. But as I said this is just a theoretical situation. The reality is different.
When I completed my education in university, it is become almost impossible for me to find any new girls. The same applies to friends. Every past year it is become harder to me, even to think about that there is a chance for me finding I girlfriend. But the hope dies last. So I keep hoping.
I have never thought that any girl could like me. :}
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Restless, you are going to lie ? I advice you, don´t do that. Some people think it will help to lie a bit, embelish their past etc., think it will help them not appear as stupid as they think they are etc. But it is a mistake. You should have the strenghth to play with what you have. Rather be shit, but be yourself. And if you don´t give in to the tempting to lie here and there a bit, chances are that with time you grow strong inside and good luck will start coming to you without you even trying. So rather give up now the girl if you think she wouldn´t like you the way you are, and wait for some to whom it doesn´t matter. And if there is none such, you´ll just stay alone till the end of life . Look at Kien, he´s accepted that already .
It's not that girls don't like me, but rather that I'm extremely anxious and awkward around people in general. This is not attractive. If people see that you're anxious and awkward, they will avoid you. It's as simple as that..
Restless, you are going to lie ? Evil or Very Mad I advice you, don´t do that.
Well, maybe you are right. This is just one opportunity. The other one is to try to be myself, even when it is difficult to explain how I’m 26 and still don’t have any relationships. Are there any women at the same level and how many are they?
Lea wrote:
And if there is none such, you´ll just stay alone till the end of life .
Probably. I have waited so long, that I’m starting to think that this is the main perspective before me. Sad, but true.
It's not like everyone is ment to be liked by the opposite gener. (-,-)
_________________ Stop making kids.
Compulsory sterilization is good.
More security. Less freedom.
The word "cowardly" is often used as another word for effectivly.
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I advice you, don´t do that. Some people think it will help to lie a bit, embelish their past etc., think it will help them not appear as stupid as they think they are etc. But it is a mistake. You should have the strenghth to play with what you have. Rather be shit, but be yourself. And if you don´t give in to the tempting to lie here and there a bit, chances are that with time you grow strong inside and good luck will start coming to you without you even trying. So rather give up now the girl if you think she wouldn´t like you the way you are, and wait for some to whom it doesn´t matter. And if there is none such, you´ll just stay alone till the end of life 
. Look at Kien, he´s accepted that already 
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