Starting a New Job

AnnaMaria · Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2005 8:55 pm Post subject: Starting a New Job

I'm starting a new job and I'm afraid my social phobia will make my first impression go wrong.

Any quick advice? My work involves team-work with people I don't know.

Any tips?

IceLad · Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2005 9:49 pm Post subject:

Its tough starting a new job. I remember my first week in my current job nearly 4 years ago. I recommend mentioning to your colleagues that you're nervous, so that they can make allowances if you do happen to make a mistake.

Also remember that its not realistic to get through your first week without making a mistake, even though us SPs tend to set ourselves way too high standards!

Best of luck!

AnnaMaria · Posted: Sat Apr 30, 2005 11:58 pm Post subject:

yeah exactly! I'm a perfectionist. I'm so critical on myself......and I feel like the whole world has their eyes on me and if I mess up they'll snicker behind my back.......

it feels like junior high all over again.....except I was mentally stable as a kid! Rolling Eyes

zyxockjm · Posted: Sun May 01, 2005 12:39 am Post subject:

Here is what I can tell you from mylast job experience. Everyone on my team knew I was kind of weird and shy but all my team members were cool about and no one cared. Even my manager was really cool with me even though she knew I was so nervous. However, people who represent the company, like the president and ceo, hated when I acted nervous. To them it was important their employees are confident and professional people.

If you can, take a xanax pill with you and you should be fine atleast for a first impression.

Danfalc · Posted: Sun May 01, 2005 3:11 am Post subject: first impressions

The only thing i can think of 2 say is that people expect you to be a little nervous when u first go for a job, not sure what the job is your going for but if you try and stay busy on working that should take your mind off your nerves, Sorry I couldnt say somthing more usefull but i wish you the all the best and im sure it will go okay for ya Very Happy

Chilling__Echo · Posted: Sun May 01, 2005 5:15 am Post subject:

i started a new job a week ago and am doing well, working kind of puts me on edge. at least with everything else it seems like you can *escape* whereas with work you can't or you'll be broke.

just take it one day at a time. i don't know what kind of work you're doing but i work in retail and i just take it one shift at a time. one customer at a time. and know that once you get through the first day, you can get through the rest. good luck and best wishes!

redwine · Posted: Sun May 01, 2005 9:41 am Post subject:

First days are always horrible!
Not just for you but for everyone. To be nervous and make mistakes is normal, dont´be worry about that .
I can give you a piece of advice that works wiht me.
take some pills to be cool, do some kind of meditation or just relax your self and fill you up with nice thinks as "everything its going to be ok" "Im´good in my work" "i dont need to be perfect because Im´just a human person and its normal make mistakes""Im´always giving my best so I can be proud of my self, "....well you know, all that kind of thinks witch make you feell better and more confident.
Look yourself in the mirrow and say " Im´cool, i love my self ....bla.bla..."
I konw it sounds a bit silly but can work, belive me.
And at work smile as much as you can (becareful , you dont need to look like a fool),but, you konw, people like smile.
50% of the people are cool and they will understand you are nervous and you are shy because everyone is different.
Dont pay attention to the rest, they are just assholes and so simple than they cannot understand anything further than their own noses.
You dont need them. Fuck up all of them.
Love your self because that is essentially the solution for our problem
Good luck Annamaria

AnnaMaria · Posted: Sun May 01, 2005 4:28 pm Post subject:

yeah, this new job transfer is 2 weeks away and my stomach churns at the thought of it...which is every hour. Rolling Eyes

Sounds like you guys are coping well with your sp? I've had this for 5 years and I feel like a newbie.

The new job: program planner for a prevention/rehab clinic....I hope no one I know reads this and knows it's me. Sad

shit.scary thought.

AGAIN, THANKS, YOU PPL R SWEET. Cool

Danfalc · Posted: Sun May 01, 2005 4:33 pm Post subject: Coping

AnnaMaria it sounds to me like ur coping well, I mean myself and a lot of others on this site are probaly too bad to even contemplate a job, Plus you seem to still have your sense of humor which will help you alot Wink

AnnaMaria · Posted: Sun May 01, 2005 5:26 pm Post subject: Re: Coping