Joined: May 16, 2005 Posts: 328 Location: United States of America
Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 4:37 pm Post subject:
I used to date a guy who I felt was treating me like plain ol' eye candy. Whenever we hung out, he would have all these plans for us to go out and see all of his friends, like at their jobs, school, homes, wherever. At first I thought he was just really proud of me, but then I realized we didn't communicate well and we had little in common. he seemed to be stuck on himself and I got more annoyed with him. It was after several months I realized our relationship wasn't true.
You can usually tell if a guy really cares about you if he seems to genuinely enjoy being with you either alone or in public and if the two of you communicate well.
My current boyfriend and I met online. It worked out great. I think people open up more on the internet than in real life.
Joined: Jul 13, 2005 Posts: 25 Location: Australia
Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 11:14 pm Post subject:
MadCat wrote:
I disagree. 9 months is nothing.
Respectfully, I disagree with your disagreement. 9 months is something. 1 month is something. 1 minute is something, if there's a second minute, etc etc.
That said, I'm not suggesting time is a reliable determinant of the strength of a relationship. I know of people who've been together for years, and broken up only when they've decided to get engaged, I know of people who've met for a few days and said they knew they'd be together forever.
Moonie wrote:
I just feel as though that he would find me perfect if I were more like my online-self/ more sociable/ more spotaneous. He says to me that I am "eye candy" rather jokingly, but still it feels that it might just be the case at times... Can a relationship like this work? I don't just want to be eye candy..
All sorts of relationships can work, all sorts can fail. My only advice, and as hard as it can be, is to talk to him about your fears, and what you want from the relationship too. I think the reason most relationships fail is that people don't really communicate, and often by the time they do, it's all too late.
Oh - and don't worry about him finding you imperfect, in the nicest possible way, no-one's perfect. Absolutely no-one.
Joined: Jul 13, 2005 Posts: 59 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 12:06 am Post subject:
He's probably trying to compliment you by saying you're eye candy, that you'll make him look good by being there! It's cool that someone would think that of you.
i'd take it as a compliment, because hes calling you hot..like others say..he wouldnt be there after 9 months if he didnt like you in other ways.
9 months is a long time, becuase it takes effort. It doesnt mean its going to last, but it takes alot of effort, time and thought to make it to 9 months. So well odne for getting that far. I hope you can have more fun in the future.
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Joined: Mar 21, 2005 Posts: 329 Location: United States of America
Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 3:50 am Post subject:
I love going to clubs and drinking...lol it's the only time I really feel comfortable with myself-- and am fun and get attention -- unfortunately. And yeah, I drink alone, too, but I all ready knew that was wrong.
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It's cool that someone would think that of you.
