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Posted: Thu Jun 03, 2004 11:40 pm Post subject: What to say?
I have noticed an attractive female a few times while walking to my car after work. She usually smiles, says hi, and quickly looks away as we pass. I want to talk to her, but I can't figure out what to say. Any suggestions would be great.
It's a bit difficult but you can start by saying: hello, how are you? and as you are meeting her more and more you can try to add more things. It will be slow but the earth was not created in one day.
Joined: Jun 01, 2004 Posts: 4 Location: United States of America
Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2004 4:03 am Post subject:
Try to be observant. What kind of car does she drive? Is she wearing a ring to indicate she's married or a boyfriend? What is the weather like? Anything big going on at work? These are all some of the topic you might be able to mention.
My therapist told me when I'm in a situation like this, try not to think of her as a potential girlfriend, but more like just a friend. By the way, it hasn't helped me much yet. LOL
Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 1:22 am Post subject: Re: What to say?
Haughton wrote:
I have noticed an attractive female a few times while walking to my car after work. She usually smiles, says hi, and quickly looks away as we pass. I want to talk to her, but I can't figure out what to say. Any suggestions would be great.
"Hi -- since I've seen you here a few times, I assume you work around here, too. Do you happen to know if there is a good ___________ in the area?"
Fill in the blank with something you are willing to follow up on -- like Greek restaurant, shoe repair shop, book store, something like that. Try to pick something you think (or already know) is in the area, so she is more likely to be able to give an affirmative answer. You may have an extended conversation right there. If not, go to such a place (either the one she tells you or one you find on your own), then when you next see her, tell her about that. "Hello again -- I went to that _____ place you mentioned -- or -- I did end up finding a ____ in the neigbhorhood; it was good [or awful or interesting or something to manufacture at least a few minutes of conversation]."
If this doesn't work, well no one got hurt, right? Maybe she isn't comfortable talking to strangers in parking lots. If it does work, please try to find something else to talk about as soon as you can (read any good books or seen any good movies lately?). Don't become the guy who only brings up that time you asked her about whether there were any _____ in the area. Hope this helps.
Posted: Thu Nov 16, 2006 11:07 pm Post subject: Re: What to say?
Haughton wrote:
I have noticed an attractive female a few times while walking to my car after work. She usually smiles, says hi, and quickly looks away as we pass. I want to talk to her, but I can't figure out what to say. Any suggestions would be great.
well i'm a girl so i can try to help u. i would walk over and say hello, and invite her to a movie or something. i mean the worst that could happen is that she would say no. but u never kno til u ask.
Posted: Fri Nov 17, 2006 8:35 am Post subject: Re: What to say?
ShyGirl101 wrote:
well i'm a girl so i can try to help u. i would walk over and say hello, and invite her to a movie or something. i mean the worst that could happen is that she would say no. but u never kno til u ask.
Actually I think something worse that could happen is she says yes, you go out, immediately realise you have nothing in common and don't like each other at all, spend several torturous hours together just getting through the night, and then finally have to deal with the awkwardness of seeing her at work.
I guess most people would take that risk and even if it did happen would just put up with it. For some reason I find being in a social situation where I'm extremely bored or uncomfortable to be so unpleasant that I'll avoid it at all costs. I just wish I could find a way of tolerating the bad times better.
Posted: Fri Nov 17, 2006 11:32 am Post subject: Re: What to say?
ShyGirl101 wrote:
Haughton wrote:
I have noticed an attractive female a few times while walking to my car after work. She usually smiles, says hi, and quickly looks away as we pass. I want to talk to her, but I can't figure out what to say. Any suggestions would be great.
well i'm a girl so i can try to help u. i would walk over and say hello, and invite her to a movie or something. i mean the worst that could happen is that she would say no. but u never kno til u ask.
I wouldn't invite someone whom i haven't talked with or know to a movie, i think that's too forward and maybe intimidating, esp since from the sound of this girl's demeanor she doesn't seem the forward type. I would try talk to her first, small chat. Also a good way to tell whether there's a hint she likes you or not is from small chat first in case she doesn't and you 'suffer' more in the movie theatre and afterwards.
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