what partner you prefer SA or not SA

jss · Last edited by jss on Mon Oct 24, 2005 6:19 am; edited 3 times in total

Hello friends,

I don't know if this question is asked before or not but sorry guys if it is a repeated question

I just found that I am in need to know what other SA fellows think of this issue

especially I prefer my partner to be SA sufferer like me Embarassed

Note : some are misunderstood my question so here is the clarification

I meant say if you have 2 persons one has SA but the other doesn't
which one you would prefer to be your spouse or partner in life?

this question is not for singles or teens only
this is for all SA fellows even if you are 100 years old Laughing

for people who already married or not singles just imagine if you were still single what option you would choose?

redlady · Elite User Joined: Jul 08, 2005 Posts: 1958

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young · Expert User Joined: Sep 23, 2005 Posts: 602

i wouldn't want anyone to go thru what i go thru. I wouldn't wish sa on my worst enemy.

jss · Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2005 4:24 am Post subject:

It seem you understand my question wrongly Smile

I didn't mean if you have a spouse do you prefer her/him to become SA like you

I meant say if you have 2 persons one has SA but the other doesn't
which one you would prefer to be your spouse or partner in life?

I hope I could explain it clearly Smile

young · Expert User Joined: Sep 23, 2005 Posts: 602

so i have a spouse and a girlfriend... sweet!

but i wouldn't care. as long as she made me happy. that wouldn't matter to me.

sensitive · Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2005 11:42 am Post subject:

I would prefer her to be a social phobic like me. Actually both have strenghts, blindsopts so not easy to choose. I can understand if anyone said i'd prefer him/her to be nonsocialphobic. Anyway i prefer that coz it will be emotionally easier to me, i guess you understand that.

Till now, majority prefer social phobic yeeeeeeeeeeeeees Very Happy

SaharaWorld · Posted: Sun Oct 30, 2005 5:41 pm Post subject:

I'd prefer my spouse to be gentle and sensitive but MUCH more confident and outgoing than I am, just not a SOCIAL ANIMAL. This is because his confidence will rub off on me and it will give me the push I need.

I can't imagine anything worse than dating someone who also has SA. One of my concerns would be the effect this will that have on our children. If they see both parents behaving awkwardly/nervously with other people, I worry they'll copy the behaviour, pick up on our mannerisms and start to exhibit the same anxieties.

sugaryberries · Posted: Mon Oct 31, 2005 4:06 am Post subject:

I don't know. That's an interesting question. I would like the person to not be as shy as me, because I like to try new things and maybe a non affected partner could help me "come out of my shell". But at the same time maybe an affected partner and I would appreciate the same things.

Overall, I'd say a non affected person.

talisman · Posted: Mon Nov 07, 2005 2:47 pm Post subject:

I'd prefer someone like me...some I could relate to. Not someone who can't go into a public place (or who is continually depressed), but neither someone who can dive into any social situation without second thought.

As for two shy/sa people being a limiting factor, I personally think they would give each other extra confidence just by being together, so it would be a helfpul thing overall.

I can see the advantages of someone not as shy as me, but I don't think I'd feel comfy around them. I need people like myself, I don't really adapt to others that well.

neolithic_man · Newbie User Joined: Nov 14, 2005 Posts: 6

By the responses, it seems generally the SA guys prefer SA girls, but SA girls want non-SA guys. Kinda sad actually Crying or Very sad

not even an SA girl likes SA guys...