Posted: Tue Nov 08, 2005 4:15 pm Post subject: Phobias and fetishes
Does anyone have any phobias and/or fetishes that make it more difficult to meet people? I have something that works as both! It started off as a childhood phobia and became connected with sexual feelings during puberty. But over the years I've felt a lot of embarrassment and shame about it and know I feel happier without these thoughts. (Don't worry, it's not anything that involves children or harms anyone but causes me a lot of anguish and torment.)
You might have an idea what I'm talking about, you might not. It's pretty silly really that I feel so bad about talking to anyone about it. I really want to talk about it and overcome my phobia-cum-fetish as it makes going out in public very difficult. (especially at a certain time of year)
I feel really pathetic about this especially since I haven't said what it is. But that's the nature of my phobia (I consider it more of a phobia than a fetish because I don't actually get enjoyment from it.). I'm hoping that someone might guess and then I might feel more comfortable about talking about it!!
hey sickofbeinglonely.....don't think i can guess what fetish is...you may have to give a hint or just tell us....don't worry...probably won't shock us or anything....and if we know, we can try to help you .................p.s. McShy.....where do you buy your stilletos? he he
Thanks for your replies! I would have posted sooner but I went offline to do something and wasn't expecting much of a response!
Basically my phobia/fetish centres around bare feet, primarily female's feet in flip flops. When I was a child I hated the sight of feet. I couldn't stand to look at them (including my own), let alone eat if I could see someone's bare feet. I've never been particularly keen on open-toed footwear and found sandals offputting especially worn by men!
As soon as I became aware of flip flops (when I was six) I was disturbed by their minimalism as it meant that I would be able to see the wearer's feet. But at the same time I also became obsessed by them and have been unable to ignore them since.
Somehow my phobia of feet became a fetish during adolescence and I started to find girls and even middle-aged women in minimalistic sandals and flip flops a turn on! As I'd previously admitted to hating feet and people who exposed them in public, I became too involved with my confused feelings and wouldn't discuss my new feelings with anyone. Since then, whenever I saw women in flip flops or sandals with a separator between the big toe and next toe I would become sexually aroused and felt bad about it.
Nowadays I can't believe the amount of people (including men) who wear flip flops and don't seem to give a shit about what anyone else might think about their feet. Part of the reason I avoid going out is because I always know I'm going to see someone in flip flops and more often these days they're fairly attractive young women!!
I've written reams of stuff about this (privately though, not on the internet) and am still confused about whether I feel it is important for me to date women who wear flip flops or whether I'd be better to undergo some sort of hypnosis so that my twisted mind wouldn't focus on that part of the anatomy!
I'd really be interested to know what other people think about this. Do you find feet disgusting? Or erotic? Or both? Sometimes it depends on my mood but I always feel provoked in some way when I see bare feet in flip flops.
Fetishes? Piercings. Not very odd, but seriously, no matter what the guy looks like if he has a facial piercings its like i melt into a puddle on the floor.
Phobias? Its not a phobia but women with relly long fake nails make me go really cold in side. I cant stand them
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Posted: Tue Nov 08, 2005 10:29 pm Post subject:
yeah, my best friend had a foot fetish. he always said that if you could keep the dirtiest part of your body looking clean and good (as in your feet), then everything else was probably in good order
Yeah, I know it's stupid to feel embarrassed about it really. I think one of the things that has made my foot phobia/fetish so sexually frustrating and tormenting is that I also suffer from OCD.
I didn't find out that I had OCD until I was 23 (7 years ago) but I'd had obsessions and rituals since I was six. I was that age when I first became obsessed with feet among other things that have ceased to bother me (dolls, clowns, corks - weird things like that). I spent much of my childhood having to have things a certain way and when it was disrupted I used to go mad!! I was really quite neurotic as a child although I still didn't have so many hangups about talking to people.
The obsession with feet and flip flops blew out of proportion sometime after I left school as I wanted to stop masturbating and the sight of (usually painted) toenails was always a trigger. I actually went through a lot of emotional pain for nearly five years because I'd never had sex and didn't want to touch myself. Eventually I gave in and no prizes for guessing what triggered off my arousal!!
So in the last seven years I've tried (and failed) to come to terms with this obsession with women's feet. At 23 I thought the answer would be to find a girl who had nice looking feet and showed them off in public. But she'd have to have an understanding about my feelings and how I'd been affected in the past. Of course, being so introverted and having no friends at the time, I realised that I couldn't possibly start approaching any strange women I saw with nice looking feet. I didn't want to be thought of as weird or look as if I was stalking them!!
Unfortunately, around this time, flip flops went from being the cheap disposable beachwear they once had been to something colourful, fashionable and even considered sexy (by writers of fashion magazines etc). I've read articles on the net about this and about the staggering variety of flip flops available. It often feels like I'm involved in some sort of "immersion therapy"!! (I was reminded of this when someone I met recently said she's obsessed with Posh Spice - but she HATES her!!)
So I don't look at pictures on the net as porn doesn't interest me. I'm just intrigued by the whole phenomenon of the flip flop's meteoric rise in popularity. That and why, with the sheer amount of girls I see wearing them, I still feel so intimidated by them and have yet to meet any of them!!
I don't know. I've said too much here already but I crack up in summer and spend most of it indoors so I don't see any women I might fancy!! (I must say at this juncture that I'm also attracted to hair, eyes, legs etc - and I usually feel most frustrated when I see a woman who has the whole package!!) By this time of year, the number of flip flop wearers tends to dwindle but last week (and indeed every day I have to go somewhere) I still saw some of 'em!!
Anyway thanks for reading this and being patient. I hope somebody might have some good advice for me.
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(Don't worry, it's not anything that involves children or harms anyone but causes me a lot of anguish and torment.) 
It's pretty silly really that I feel so bad about talking to anyone about it. I really want to talk about it and overcome my phobia-cum-fetish as it makes going out in public very difficult. 
(especially at a certain time of year)
.................p.s. McShy.....where do you buy your stilletos? he he 
I couldn't stand to look at them (including my own), let alone eat if I could see someone's bare feet. 
I've never been particularly keen on open-toed footwear and found sandals offputting especially worn by men! 
As I'd previously admitted to hating feet and people who exposed them in public, I became too involved with my confused feelings and wouldn't discuss my new feelings with anyone. 
