Share your short term goals and challenges

jamez · Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 2:19 pm Post subject:

I get sidetracked and then start feeling down usually, so I definitely need to re-motivate myself each and everyday. Maybe spend 30 minutes each day on focusing on why it is important that I achieve what I set to achieve. And maybe read a book, or watch a video of people who can inspire me.

thirtysomethin · Newbie User Joined: Oct 25, 2006 Posts: 7

Id like to start earning some decent money again, so I can save up and move out on my own....I really want to live on my own again (or with a girlfriend should one come along lol, pfft chances)

Other than that id like to develop some more discipline and increase my motivation so I can do some more things to get myself gradually out of the situation im in.

Chihiro · Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 9:09 am Post subject:

My goal right now is to be able to have an end of year holiday all the way across the world, to mark my finishing uni, for a change of scene, and for something else as well.

To achieve that i made myself get two jobs (although the first one ended shortly) - all in customer service which i have found so daunting when i had them before. . And now i am going to interviews and applying for more jobs even when i should be studying for my final exams! The thing is when money is on my mind it lessens the anxiety, and when i have doubts, which is often, it pushes me forward. Without the holiday goal, i would just think i can live or live without a job and anxiety would take over, pushing me back to comfort mode. I've never had such determination before and it's definitely a positive thing ! Smile

Hope all goes well with my trip.

Chihiro · Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 9:20 am Post subject:

I think having short term goals and challenges is important in challenging ur anxiety. It shows you that you have things to focus on and encourages you not to lose sight of things important to you even though they are difficult ot do.

My therapist, with the new 'Acceptance' therapy that she is trying with me, makes me focus on things that i value. She made a good analogy of what people would say at a social phobics' funeral: would you want them to remember you as a person who successfully avoided anxiety inducing situations and never lost their cool, or someone who despite their fears achieved things that they wanted to do, lived a life and did not let their demons overtake them?

When i told her of my intense fear at small talk with people at work, she said something that is very true: people would find you boring if you dont' say anythign at all, rather than saying things that you think is 'boring'. You never know when they would latch onto your words and relate to you from there if you never try!

When i blush i think the whole world watches me burn but the truth is i would not have such a strong reaction if i saw someone else blush. It would be over and peopel would get on with their goals and what ever they were doing. And i see so many people blush and shake it's not jsut the domain of the social phobics. THis is getting a bit side tracked but what i am getting at is that, for me at least and i hope it is true for some of us, we should not let anxiety stop us living our life, and the things that make us uncomfortable need not dictate the actions we take.

blackcap · Intermediate User Joined: Nov 14, 2006 Posts: 133

Lyricaljust · Posted: Sat Nov 18, 2006 3:09 am Post subject:

I'm 21 I just turned 21 alittle bit over a month ago.. and I finally accomplished my BIG goal that I set for myself for awhile which was to get my driver's licence.. I finally got my driver's licence.. and it feels so good to finally have it not hanging over my head no more.. my goals for myself.. well really.. I really would like to have a girlfriend.. a pretty and nice girl that I can talk to and just connect with.. I think that's the main thing that I want for myself is to have a girlfriend.. I also feel like I probably should get out more since I spend most of my time alone.. I think I should spend more time.. hanging out with people and going out.. but that's hard.. when you don't really have anyone at all? Another thing I want to set for a goal for myself to stop procrastinating so much.. I procrastinate so much and it just bothers me alittle bit.. there are things that I want to study, read.. etc. and I just don't do it out of plain laziness.. I also would like to start writing poetry again I haven't written a poem that I've liked for over a year now which sort of sucks.. so that's another thing.. I guess that's all of my goals at the moment.. that and maybe be more active..

Thelema · Expert User Joined: Jul 22, 2006 Posts: 840 Location: USA

I want to call my friend on the phone. Last night she told me how much she cared about me and I cried my eyes out. I'm an 18 year old guy and I haven't cried in years. I had to type out that I was crying! She told me that she was losing her house. She said she was crying. She had to type out that she was crying! I told her that I loved her and that I would always be there for her but I can't call her! She begged me to call her and I couldn't! I love this woman but I can't call her.I haven't even heard her voice. I feel like crap because of it Crying or Very sad

I just promised her that when I had the house to myself that I would call her.

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