my social anxity killing me

amin · Newbie User Joined: Apr 09, 2006 Posts: 3

hi

i would like to describe what ever i feel , and see how close what ever i feel to every one in this great forum.

1) very low confedance
2)always watching people and alert , and feel likepeople talking about me or if i heard some one laughten i feel it's about me and thats makes me stressed Evil or Very Mad

3)impossible to response to calls and if i did my voice tune is weard
4) usually ignore people that i dont know and try to avoid them
5)people that i know try to avoid them too , but if they talk to me i usually talke back
6)impossible to attened meetings and avoid parties and stuff like that
7)cant look at people face to face , always my face down
8 when talking to my close friend alone i seem normal, but if we are in crowed iwon't be able to concentrate in what we are talking about.
9)three people gathering impossible , i feel uncomfortable
10)i loss my self when talking to stranger and i act like idiot
11)angry most of the time, my driving style agrassive
12)always feel like in defence mode and ready for fight if i suspect some one say or humliate or tried to fool me around no time for thinking or ditenguish between joke or not

june · Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 10:51 pm Post subject:

I think that we all have some of those same feelings, I know 2-6 are things I really struggle with.

MrRightNow · Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 10:58 pm Post subject:

Here is my countdown....

#10 I can't make eye contact.
#9 I have trouble making new friends or meeting new people
#8 I'm affriad to speak when I'm around a group
#7 I blush too much
#6 I smother the friends I do have
#5 I have low self confidence
#4 I can't keep friends
#3 I suck at speaking to girls
#2 can't be myself in public
#1 Pete Rose bet me I wouldn't do it

So we are kinda similar.

Quixote · Advanced User Joined: Mar 14, 2006 Posts: 450

MrRightNow · Posted: Mon Apr 10, 2006 12:02 am Post subject:

amin · Newbie User Joined: Apr 09, 2006 Posts: 3

MrrightNow

some stuff you said i forget to write them down , like having problem even more with girls , don't know why . also most of things you write simial to what i have , but you guys i am going to retair early becuse my Government (Qatar) helps people like my case and can retire as early as 20 years old - my intrivew 3 weeks from now - i didn't go to work for last one month - and one thing more i cant stay in my work desk more than 10 minuts i keep walking and then come back to my desk what the heck is this... and people make fun of it around me , some one told me that's afeeling of being uncomfortable. i forget one thiog more why do i keep smilling to people (that's not me)- do's it means low self steam or personality problem. i am on seroxat (paxil) and i thing i am going to stop it , gived me sever constpition , i have to see my doctor soon although this med cute down social phobia to low level and deprisson to mild

siana11 · Newbie User Joined: May 03, 2006 Posts: 2

I can relate:

Low self esteem
difficulty making eye contact
hard time making friends
afraid to answer the phone
afraid of saying something stupid or voicing my opinion in a group of people
dislike being the center or attention
feelings of being judged and disliked by others
If I'm invited to a social event, I think of any excuse to avoid it because I imagine embarrasing myself or not having anything to say

rainy512 · Newbie User Joined: May 30, 2006 Posts: 5

I can totally relate. It's hard for me to even be around my family for long periods of time. If I go visit my mom or sister or someone else, I can't have a conversation with out having to walk out of the room right in the middle of a sentence. I recently left my husband because of a drug problem and I have 2 kids and I need to get a job. I'm scared to death and cry myself to sleep everynight. I sometimes think they might be better off someone else.

ozkr · Newbie User Joined: Aug 09, 2006 Posts: 48

iris · Newbie User Joined: Sep 09, 2006 Posts: 2

I blush too much. way too much.
I have no confidence whatsoever.
I sweat too much. I have serious problems when we play "The Human Knot"
I can't speak fluently in class.
I can't speak to cute boys without blushing furiously.
Anyone have a remedy for this?