always getting rejected by women

LilMissTragic · Expert User Joined: Sep 05, 2004 Posts: 803

Lifesnotfair, you said not to judge people but you just judged all woman. Not all woman are as you predicted. We aren't all into guys who love themselves. I certainly aint. Yeh you get some woman that like the 'bad boys' but at the end of the day most woman prefer a man that will be there, ones that consider their feelings and stuff. I think a lot of woman now dont really want these type of men until they hit thier late 20's or 30's. This day and age a lot of people dont even seem to want serious relationships. I dont think your in that catagory though, you seem to be a very sensitive soul and I think its just a case of waiting for the right girl. I know at this time it seems she will never appear but please realise that there are girls out there looking for guys like you and others on this site.
By the way, how old are you?

disneychick · Posted: Thu Nov 04, 2004 4:39 pm Post subject:

u know what, guys reject women 2 - I just went out with some jerk guy who was only trying 2 get his gf jealous. we went 2 the movies, held my hand etc and then never called me again. guess what, i find out from a friend of mine hes back w his ex......so its the other way around 2. guys play w ur mind and pretend they like u when they dont.

Guest · Posted: Fri Nov 05, 2004 12:29 pm Post subject:

Well you at least make it to the rejection stage Wink

The only thing worse than rejection I'd say is missing the oppertunity all together, something I excell at - especially when you are pretty much certain they wouldn't reject you but you still don't ask.. a lifes worth of "what ifs" certainly blows

One way or another there will be somebody out there who is good for you, hell there are some spectacularly arrogant or ugly people that still manage to get into relationships (not that you are either) .

Just from reading your follow-up post I can see you're a resonable person not crazy or completely unloveble...

Some chicks and guys are just shallow and really don't look past the physical - but alot do, just keep looking mate.

writing yourself off by saying things like: "my attitude will not change until some girl will give me the chance, however i think we all know the chances of that are. " is a great way to keep yourself thinking negatively about yourself, which inturn maybe reflected in the way you come across.

Also maybe looking in a completely different place for someone might help, I certainly know that most of the chicks in clubs don't really appeal to me, they all seem interested in a quick flirt and nothing more long term wise - from what i have observed, not first hand experience lol. Find someone whose interested in your hobbies etc, or join a club for something.

The main thing is just to try keep positive, and not write yourself off as completely unacceptable for a relationship. It may seem that way now, but thats the negitivity talking. You forget that each person is completely different, just because a few or most in the past have not hit it off with you does not in any way mean that women in future will all find you unattractive or not appealing.

But one thing is for certain, if you giveup completely on them now - you won't be in a relationship. And because it obviously means so much to you (and me) you do really have to keep your sprits up and keep looking.

And if it's really really getting your goat, there is always professional help - of course it's hard to go initially, but it does help. Well it is so far for me, beats being eaten up inside because of it. Smile

A few may have hurt you in the past, but don't let that bleed over into your opinion of women in general or ones you meet to date or whatever.

Keep your chin up mate Very Happy

lifesnotfair · Posted: Fri Nov 05, 2004 7:54 pm Post subject:

i wouldn't be so judgemental if women weren't so judgemental towards me. I am tired of being rejected and hurt, you all don't know how much that i have been hurt, and how much i don't want to be part of society. I just want to laugh when you women say that there isn't any nice guys out there..

you know what.. my friends say that there are lots of women out there, however, a TINY percentage of them are single.. and even if they were, what chances do i have with them, being so angry, and full of hatred.. ya.. sure..

keep my chin up.. ha.. i am sorry, but everytime i do that, life keeps kicking me down.. how can one recover when everything that u try keeps on rejecting you..

Guest · Posted: Mon Nov 08, 2004 12:58 am Post subject:

lifesnotfair · Posted: Mon Nov 08, 2004 4:47 am Post subject:

well you can kiss my ass..

Guest · Posted: Mon Nov 08, 2004 4:08 pm Post subject:

Guest · Posted: Thu Nov 18, 2004 3:32 am Post subject:

I am a girl. Girls generally like confident men who respect and trust themselves - can you blame us?

There is nothing sexier than a man who does the right things for the right reason and never makes apologies for himself. ***Gives me chills***

Even if a guy is totally ugly, I still get weak in the knees if he knows what he wants, he knows what he's doing, and he speaks confidently with a slow, loud voice.

tommy_15 · Advanced User Joined: Nov 16, 2004 Posts: 348

i agree with guest.

its not that woman necessarily like big mouth arrogant heros, some do, but most just want someone who is confident, fun, and someone they can depend on.

heres a good tip, probly the best one i know okies get ready Laughing

girls want you to play hard to get Very Happy

even when your together, they still want you to make everything difficult Laughing

i dunno females certainly are strange creatures but im telling you thats how it is Laughing

so yer, one reason girls might keep telling you to take a hike is cause you give yourself to them all at once and come on to strong

annie · Posted: Sat Nov 20, 2004 1:10 pm Post subject:

RonW,

Oh what a lovely story about how you met your wife.
You sound like a real nice guy.
You are such a gentleman; the things you still do for her
after 16 years of marriage.
You wife is so lucky to have you and you sound like you
are inlove with her even more today.
Do you have a twin brother by any chance?

Cheers
annie