Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2007 8:29 pm Post subject: this blushing is making my life hell =(
15 year old girl here, in year 11 at school.
chronic blushing is absulutly horrible, i used to enjoy school, but now i completely dread going in every day, in fear that something will set me off blushing. i just go bright red in class whenever the teacher says my name to answer a question or read or something, and i get so paranoid about people talking about me and whenever i go red i feel like everyone is looking at me and laughing, thinking im like some complete wierdo going red for no reason. Anything will set off my blushing, a classmate asking to borrow a pen, the teacher asking me to hand out some work, anything..i also dread going to assembly, in case my name will get called out and ill have to stand in front of hundreds of people..i just feel so pathetic.
my personality has changed so much, i used to be alot more confident, funny, talkative, i even did drama, but now im just a complete nervous wreck, slowly drifting away from my friends.I cant bring myslef to tell my friends or family, because i know they wont understand. I dont think anyone can understand this facial blushing thing unless theyre actually going through it or have gone through it themselves
well that is me
id just like to hear from other people who understand this, and how they deal with it. i dont think i could ever bring myself to see a doctor or go on medication or anything like that, gah, this thing just makes me feel so trapped...
damn i know EXACTLY what your talking about its awful! anything will make me blush too and i dont know what 2 do about it and i used 2 like school 2 but i cant stand the blushing i havent been in a wk and a half ppl say makeup covers it up but i wear makeup and obviously not cus ppl r still like awww shes blushing! and omg ys ur face so red? or just laughing or talking about me. and i HATE when the teacher calls atendance cuz im just waiting 4 my name all nervous and i clear my throat and act like im rlly busy with something but it still always comes out in a tiny high pitch scared way and ppl look at me and laugh and copy my here and of course my face it tomatoe red and normal ppl rlly dont understand any of this and i mean, how would they? they just need 2 realize how lucky they are.
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Sue also had this problem... didn't blush that often (although i DID blush and it was awful) but my voice used to go all funny and sqeaky in the class all the time... that was quite bad... but recently, things are looking up a lot. i realized that... as much as I love and need other people... it doesn't really matter what they think or what they do or what they are... because it's ME what it's all about (ok not all, but definitely... what my life is about). I started to live for myself at the first place, and THEN for other people... now I don't get nervous so often... I am okay with whatever happens... there's still a lot of problematic stuff for me but you know... it's okay. for the first time in my life I feel everyhing's okay... I am calm and able to learn and grow and progress.
so there goes my advice. make peace with yourself. love yourself, respect yourself, be your friend. don't forget about other people, but do not care about them so much. be a litttle bit egoistic... and do not worry.
maybe you won't stop blushing straigh away, but when you are at peace with your own self and when you have this feeling of allrightness, it could help you not to get nervous so easily.
Posted: Wed Jul 04, 2007 3:04 am Post subject: Re: this blushing is making my life hell =(
you put it perfectly. People who don't suffer from it have no idea how bad it is. Since i found this site though - it has made me feel so much better to know that it wasn't just me feeling like a total freak. My personality has changed too - and it sux that this problem is stopping me from enjoying life - it makes me angry. I have good days and bad days though - but the bad days tend to drag me right back to the start again. You're not alone - just remember - although its on your mind like - 24 hours a day (it is for me) noone else is thinking about it - so they're not expecting you to go red any second. I try and push it to the back of my mind and find if i'm in a situation where i would normally go red - but didnt - its because i got distracted and forgot about it.
im a 22 year old guy and i blush all the friggin time,i hhave found a way to slighten it a bit though,if im talking to someone i mighht blush for no reason but i try to fight it and look at them right in the face and pretend i dont care and just keep talking,it usually makes me talk faster,but also sometimes i just try and find a way to escape which makes everything worse its better to just fight it i reckon,ive got a mate whos way more anxious and shy than i am but he will never blush,weird,maybe skin coulor has something to do with it?
I don't blush as much as I used to, but it's definitely something I think about quite often at work. I worry about getting cornered by someone and being asked a question by an authority figure. A small thing will make me turn red. The worst part is that there are promotions going on at my job and I fear that I won't get chosen because of my shyness, and if I do get chosen that will put me into a panic because I'll have to sit in meetings and talk. It's a no-win situation for me. But I do understand everything you're going through.
When I was in high school I remember panicking in class, then I wasn't able to concentrate. I didn't have a name for it then so I just suffered. I could have done so much better in school but I was unable to concentrate.
I do admit, I finally went to see a therapist about 6 months ago and my blushing has decreased. I should have gone to see her much sooner but I was too scared.
I hope you can find ways of improving because from experience I can tell you that just hoping the blushing will stop one day won't work. We have to put ourselves in situations that make us fearful to get over the phobia. Each time it gets easier, but I know that high school is another story, it is possible though!
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Posted: Tue Jul 31, 2007 10:41 pm Post subject:
yea im the same god im dreading going back to skool i took up dram then i discovered i had a chronic blushing problem and its gunna be hell for me, also the teachers will make me read ans stand up infront of my class i cant control it or stand it anymore its driving me nuts!!!! i still havent gotr the nerves to tell my doctor cus i dnt think other people will understand
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