How do I get a girlfriend?

Poetic_Wallflower · Newbie User Joined: Dec 09, 2007 Posts: 6

Hi I'm a new member, I'd like to tell you about myself. As a child I was pretty quiet, but I always managed to make some friends, but around age 11 I became extremely shy, completely afraid of people in highschool I had no friends, I didn't do homework many times because I couldn't ask for help. I ended up skipping classes alot, I barely graduated. I've been told by a doctor that I have ADD which makes it more difficult. I have slowly improved but not been cured.

I'm really worried that I'll never be free, or that I wont move forward in life because I am alone, I cant make friends because I don't talk, I never have anything interesting to say. The worst is at work often times I wish I didn't have to work [the only place I have to be around people], but I need money. How can someone like me live life, often I've wished for a quick death, but thats basically impossible and most of all wrong.

Can someone give me some advice please, I just wish I could find a nice girl to give my life a purpose and make me feel joy, I'm sure then I would be more compelled to be more outgoing, or at the least be happy.

midnightlotus · Newbie User Joined: Feb 17, 2008 Posts: 1

I know how you feel. I've been shy for quite a long time, though I don't think I was always this way. I'm 30 now and year it become increasing difficult to be a part of the rest of the world, or feel at ease in anyway with anyone, even in relationships.
Trust me on this one thing though. As much as you think having someone in special in your life with compell you to be the person you want to be, it might not.
Millions of relationshipsv later searching for the same thing, I find myself 30, divorced, more socially phobic than ever before.
Find comfort and trust in who you are, and you'll find somebody that loves you regardless of your social inabilities, but there is no one out there that can make you be the person you want to be other than yourself.