Read the post... Do u think this would work for you?
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Joined: Jul 04, 2007 Posts: 608
Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 3:34 pm Post subject: Fighting a losing battle...
Why do we continue to fight this problem that we all have in common? We all know there is no cure, so why continue to look for it? I know there have been posts on this before, but if we can just accept ourselves for who we are and just be happy doing the things we're comfortable doing, I'm sure we could all move past this who label of socially phobic. It's true that we need some human interaction in our lives, but if we make it so we can minimize the social interaction without completely eliminating it, I think that's a war well fought.
We just need to lead different lives than most people, because social phobe in this extroverted world just does not work, simple as that. For instance, we all have our hobbies I'm sure, and we can all get a job that we can do from somewhere we feel comfortable (even home). That right there is life for us, work and hobbies, because we don't mix well with other people in most cases. It's all we need to be independent of the people who don't understand us and happy with ourselves.
Not trying to say we need to isolate ourselves, just have our own space and accept our social phobia as a gift instead of a burden. There are definitely benefits too if u think about it. For example, most of us have way higher IQs than the average person. As part of that majority, that means to me that my panic disorder is just part of the gift that the maker gave me, therefore I will accept it and use it as a tool for happiness. As long as I make it a point to get out and do something at least once each day, I think that's fine, who really gives a shit what I do? As long as I get exercise and pay the bills and live a life that I enjoy, who should really give a shit?? The only thing that depresses us is being around the opposite minded people telling us that we are crazy when really we just experience a different world than them.
Not saying I'm going to stop seeing my psychiatrist, or stop taking medication.... but I will definitely bring up these thoughts with her lol. Should be an interesting appointment...
The only thing that depresses us is being around the opposite minded people telling us that we are crazy when really we just experience a different world than them.
that's a personal thing. it may be true for you, and if you can have a happy life without making changes thats great for you.
but for me, i want to be more outgoing. i want to be more talkative and more engaging. I'm not happy the way I am. i depress myself more than other people do. i don't want to change myself completely. I just think if i had more confidence in myself i wouldn't be as shy, could make friends more easily, and be happy.
I just think if i had more confidence in myself i wouldn't be as shy, could make friends more easily, and be happy.
We've all been trying to do this to, but it seems unbeatable for me at the stage in treatment I am at. I'd like some magic confidence boost too, but it just isn't attainable for me other than when I'm using alcohol/drugs, and they're only temporary anyways. I have been through every medication, remedy, or therapy u can name and I just feel like I have to accept me for me, because embracing this is the only choice I have left, and its just as reasonable of a choice as anything else i've tried so far. We're more sensitive, intelligent, and imaginative than most people, plus we have this anxiety. We obviously have a difference in brain chemistry compared to normal people, and medicine is just not advanced enough at this point in time to treat my problem. It's time to take it on and become an artist or something. Wow I've typed enough.
I just think if i had more confidence in myself i wouldn't be as shy, could make friends more easily, and be happy.
We've all been trying to do this to, but it seems unbeatable for me at the stage in treatment I am at. I'd like some magic confidence boost too, but it just isn't attainable for me other than when I'm using alcohol/drugs, and they're only temporary anyways. I have been through every medication, remedy, or therapy u can name and I just feel like I have to accept me for me, because embracing this is the only choice I have left, and its just as reasonable of a choice as anything else i've tried so far. We're more sensitive, intelligent, and imaginative than most people, plus we have this anxiety. We obviously have a difference in brain chemistry compared to normal people, and medicine is just not advanced enough at this point in time to treat my problem. It's time to take it on and become an artist or something. Wow I've typed enough.
Peace
did not realize it was that severe. hope you find happiness whichever way suits you best!
We've all been trying to do this to, but it seems unbeatable for me at the stage in treatment I am at. I'd like some magic confidence boost too, but it just isn't attainable for me other than when I'm using alcohol/drugs, and they're only temporary anyways. I have been through every medication, remedy, or therapy u can name and I just feel like I have to accept me for me, because embracing this is the only choice I have left, and its just as reasonable of a choice as anything else i've tried so far. We're more sensitive, intelligent, and imaginative than most people, plus we have this anxiety. We obviously have a difference in brain chemistry compared to normal people, and medicine is just not advanced enough at this point in time to treat my problem. It's time to take it on and become an artist or something.
I know where you're coming from. I'm 35 now and I've given up on ever 'being normal'. I accept that this is the way I'm going to be forever, but I don't like it. I'd love to have friends, a partner, and a normal social life but like you say it would need a dramatic medical advance in order to change the way my brain works.
If you can accept the way you are and be satisfied with it, then great. I wish I could.
Catch 22, you either mourn in depression and push away the truth while building on other methods, or agree thats who you are and work with that other than against it.
Either way its not exactly easy, but both have possible good outcomes. Methinks something, as debiliating as it is SA(and the other problems associated) has developed and/or affected our personality enough to the point it has more importance and power than the rest of our traits/interests. Now you can either agree and work along this or try to break free of it.
To break away is to deny a greater part of oneself and by no means eaiser than even accepting it.
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