Why are you shy ?

Atlantis · Newbie User Joined: Jan 09, 2008 Posts: 70

Why exactly you are shy ? Why exactly do you get intimidated when you have to talk to people ?

I was wondering and I think in my case what I fear is people being malicious. I think everyone is often being malicious, and I tend to protect myself from that. I do not fear if people think I am wrong about something, I fear they would do jokes or be malicious.

I wanted to know if that is the case for you people too ? Maybe all shyness are about fear of people being malicious. If not, so what exacly do you fear ?

Are you afraid that people want to humiliate you too, or there is another reason ? I ask that because I don't trust people a lot, but I´ve seen shy people who doesn't seen to be untrustful of others and see people in a very friendly way, but they are still shy.

stardog · Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 4:18 pm Post subject:

Learning from a young age that no-one wanted to listen to what I had to say.

People glamorize shyness, but really it's just lack of self-belief, I don't see that theres anything good about it really Mad

maggie · Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 4:48 pm Post subject:

of course i'm only speculating, but i think my reasons for being shy, or having anxiety, stem from my childhood experiences, a bullying, over- powering mother..being bullied on school bus, and basically a low self-esteem. Genetically, i'm confused, as my 4 brothers and sisters seem completely calm in social situations, and are outgoing, outspoken individuals.. Rolling Eyes

Psychedelicious · Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 6:33 pm Post subject:

I'm not exactly sure of the reason why because from what I can remember I've never been not shy. It's just always been that way.

recluse · Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 7:53 pm Post subject:

The main reason for me is that i am afraid that i won't know what to say and that i appear boring. I was also made fun of in school and college.

alex29 · Intermediate User Joined: Dec 15, 2007 Posts: 147

I was made fun of a little bit for the way i dressed when I was in jr high school but i have always been shy since I was a little kid, before we even noticed what people looked like. i think its just part of me, but I also think part of it has to do with me not wanting to be laughed at in a cruel way. I dont have much confidence in what I say so I dont say much. and also I dont want to approach people because I never want to interrupt what theyre doing or cause them any inconvenience

jellybean · Newbie User Joined: Dec 28, 2007 Posts: 61

Ye Im afraid of being hurt by people too, Im afraid they will be mailicious and hurt me which I find they do, bit of a self fulfilling prophecy though I think

ljwwriter · Intermediate User Joined: Oct 31, 2007 Posts: 197

I know I'm shy because I have little confidence in myself, especially when it comes to my appearance. I just can't be outgoing when I feel like I look so unattractive.

lonely_world · Intermediate User Joined: Jul 04, 2007 Posts: 145

Because I never learned the proper social skills from my family, and was too isolated as a kid.

ripewithdecay · Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 5:22 am Post subject:

I became shy because when i was a child my family kept telling me i was very annoying and never shut up, and eventually my friends did too.