Who of the SPs and the APDs are youngest, oldest, or middle siblings?
youngest
54%
[ 12 ]
oldest
31%
[ 7 ]
middle
13%
[ 3 ]
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Chiaroscuro Newbie User
Joined: Mar 21, 2008 Posts: 25 Location: Near Bedford
Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 11:51 pm Post subject: Just arrived
Hey guys!
My real name is Stuart and anyone here can call me Stu or Stew for short. I'm 22 years old. I've been hesitant about whether or not to join with this website cause I'm reluctant to cement my identity as a social phobe etc - but I decided to in the end as it seems to make sense to share my problems with other people who can relate to me.
Having read a few people's posts on the difference between the various anxiety conditions I would have to say that APD is the one that fits with me the most accurately, though I seem to have some traits that fit with the other ones too! I can often behave as if I am calm and layed back without showing obvious signs of distress, but find it incredibly difficult to make myself do something where I might be judged by others. e.g I was at uni for three years and avoided almost all of the seminars and only made friends with a few people who I did not consider socially threatening.
Things I find difficult include; social events; making phone calls; expressing myself; being pressured for an answer; introducing myself; approaching people I don't know; public speaking; judgemental scenarios e.g interviews. talking to Girls full stop! But the main thing for me is that I can do all these things ok with practice - my biggest problem is making myself actually do it. It seems like I can waste literally months or even years whittling away time - and then at the end of it I just make some excuse and avoid it altogether.
On this site I really want to chat to people generally, make friends and work together with people to become more free from social anxiety. But I'm not so interested in getting drawn into anything negative and pessimistic cause if we dwell on how crappy things are for us during the low points I think we just reenforce our burdens and prolong recovery.
BTW I love drawing and painting - dream to be an artist eventually! (hence the name Chiaroscuro). I'm also crazy about rifle shooting, badminton and emotional music!
Joined: Mar 21, 2008 Posts: 25 Location: Near Bedford
Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 9:40 am Post subject:
Thanks for the replies guys!
About the pol IceLad - I'm the youngest sibling myself, and I just had a suspicion that the way you fit into the family dynamic, as the youngest, might make us more likely to develop anxiety disorders? In my case my mum in particular always wanted to protect me when I was a kid because I was her last child. People thought I would 'grow out of my shyness', and so they would do things for me that they probably should have pushed me a bit harder to do myself. I mean I'm sure there are other factors involved too, but it could be relevant.
Katex88x - I still wanna be an artist some day - I just wish I could make a living from it! lol. Hey I'm gonna really show my ignorance here but what is a pm? This is the first internet forum site i've ever been on! Oh well. there is a first time for everything. ha
Joined: Jan 03, 2005 Posts: 593 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject:
Chiaroscuro wrote:
About the pol IceLad - I'm the youngest sibling myself, and I just had a suspicion that the way you fit into the family dynamic, as the youngest, might make us more likely to develop anxiety disorders? In my case my mum in particular always wanted to protect me when I was a kid because I was her last child. People thought I would 'grow out of my shyness', and so they would do things for me that they probably should have pushed me a bit harder to do myself. I mean I'm sure there are other factors involved too, but it could be relevant.
Totally agree with you here.
Although many other things have contributed towards causing my social anxiety, I think being the youngest sibling definitely increases the chances of developing an anxiety disorder.
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But I'm not so interested in getting drawn into anything negative and pessimistic cause if we dwell on how crappy things are for us during the low points I think we just reenforce our burdens and prolong recovery.
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