Cure for blushing that worked for me!.....

cadaver_ · Newbie User Joined: Aug 05, 2007 Posts: 24

I've become an almost chronic blusher until my therapist sent me the following information to look over. Nothing earth shattering, just a different way of thinking.

"What happens to you does not, by itself, cause how you feel or what you do. People do not make you angry. You make yourself angry about what people do. Bad things do not make you feel sad or depressed. You make yourself feel sad or depressed. Dangerous situations do not make you scared. You make yourself scared. People or things do not make you happy. You do. It is what happens to you AND what you believe it means to you or about you that results in how you feel and what you do. This is pretty good news because it gives you a lot of freedom."

That's it. I had to read this over and over to let it sink in and realize that I had a lot of control that I was simply giving away to others. I'm about 95% blush-free now, which is fine with me because EVERYONE blushes at some point in their lives. Don't know if it will help everyone but I thought I'd post it.

Good luck with this.

zeroday · Posted: Sat Apr 12, 2008 4:21 am Post subject:

thanks, cadaver_

i've saved it, and i plan to read this many times over.

i'm really glad it worked for you.

sidney · Posted: Sat Apr 12, 2008 11:19 am Post subject:

im sorry but i need more explaination of this, so what exactly did u do, just recite that or something and somehow that made your blushing stop??

cadaver_ · Newbie User Joined: Aug 05, 2007 Posts: 24

krs2snow · Intermediate User Joined: Jan 25, 2008 Posts: 206

Cadaver, I really like what you're saying and your post but I don't know how to internalize this. In most situations where I blush, I consciously know there is no reason for it and my logical mind is saying "You have no reason to feel stupid/embarrassed/whatever. But, there I go and blush again! And then I'm mad at myself for letting it happen! How did you wrap you mind around this idea so that it really took hold?

cadaver_ · Newbie User Joined: Aug 05, 2007 Posts: 24

sidney · Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 7:12 pm Post subject:

thanks for that, i really will try it but since its gotten so embedded into my head it'll be hard to ignore the thoughts and sort of re-programme them but hopefully it has some effect

Lo · Newbie User Joined: Jun 05, 2008 Posts: 5

ive printed this out and posted it on my wall. thanks so much. Embarassed

TAMPA-BAY · Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 8:03 am Post subject:

Well dont CADAVER. I dont blush ever cause its physicaly impossiable for me to ever blush but your underlying concept is what I am using to deal with my Anxiety.

I am constantly practicing the concept that my shynes/anxiety are internal which means its cause by internal factors. The biggest factor is my thinking. I believe in the concept that our thoughts and thinking determin our moods.

So i can see how people can blush just by whats on their mind.