Girls know I'm shy!

Cool_Un_Cool · Newbie User Joined: Mar 20, 2008 Posts: 97

I hate it, most girls that have known me for a while, like my sister's friends either make fun of me, or feel bad for me.
If they aren't making jokes about my awkwardness, they act like I'm a kid, saying things like: "Don't be nervous around us."
Also, contantly they keep trying to make me "come out of my shell" by insisting I sit and talk more. Furthermore, they talk about me, like i'm not even there, saying: "He's so shy, isn't he?" and "He needs to be around more girls."
Yeah, right...
Ultimately, I feel humiliated and I don't think focusing attention on my shyness is going to help. I'm tired of being their pet project.

Tab · Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 11:59 pm Post subject:

lol I get this a lot to from my brothers friends or my friends friends. I hate it too, I just try and avoid these situations.

4seasons · Advanced User Joined: Apr 12, 2007 Posts: 370

Take advantage of this man, seriously. Are they your age? It sounds like an easy way to get used to talking to girls, try to be around more when they're over and just try to talk. Think about it...you want to get over your anxiety right? Well the fact that they already know who you are and everything is like skipping the most awkward part in my opinion(meeting them, introducing yourself). take advantage, wish I was in your position.

Yay4Cats · Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 1:33 am Post subject: That's RUDE..

I know. I always thought it was so rude for people to say something about someone being shy! Its something negative that you already know about yourself. I dont know why people think its ok. I mean think about.. what other negative trait is socially acceptable to call people out on? Your not allowed to be like "Oh he is so fat he needs to work on losing weight" Do you see what I mean? So why is this like one of the only negative traits you are allowed to say about someone right in fron of them? Oh, and right away too.. like if you don't even know the person! Also when people introduce you to someone and they say something about you being shy. Like one time my friend told me she was introduced to a kid and the lady inroducing him was like "its ok he's shy too" Am I the only one who thinks this is rude? Being shy should be an unspoken truth just like being fat, conceited, bossy, ect.
LOL Sorry if this sound like a rant, but it pisses me off. Evil or Very Mad

Cool_Un_Cool · Newbie User Joined: Mar 20, 2008 Posts: 97

They're a little older, like mid-to late 20's.
Yea, I think it is rude they confront me about the way they do.

Cool_Un_Cool · Newbie User Joined: Mar 20, 2008 Posts: 97

Truthfully, I think they feel bad bacause I am physically challenged.
The way they talk about it is condescending, and the way the approach me about it makes me feel even more self-concious. Saying stuff like: "Oh, you're little brother's so shy."

recluse · Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 7:23 pm Post subject:

I used to get shown up by these girls from school all the time, made me feel so small and stupid. I hate it when people comment on my shyness and looks.

Sapphire_Ice28 · Newbie User Joined: Apr 15, 2008 Posts: 7

Uhhhh...Hate that! I've never been an extremely shy person...but I'm usually quiet when i first meet someone. They usually take it as shyness.

It's a good thing I'm over my shyness. My brother is the shy one now....although I was never nearly as shy as him....I know how humiliating it is to be told to "talk". Last time someone did that to me I started getting angry with them. lol

If you look at it from the other angle though, it's hard to get to know someone who's shy. But telling a shy person to "say something" is not the way to do it.

Josh90 · Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 1:12 am Post subject:

Almost every week i'd get a comment at school like, 'why dont you talk more' or 'your so quiet' I BLOODY KNOW!

Victor · Newbie User Joined: Jul 08, 2008 Posts: 31

I'm very quiet too. When I was younger, I would sit on the passenger seat while somebody drove me somewhere, and he/she would keep telling me to "say something". All I would amswer was "I have nothing to say". At times I would become really cross and just say "Why don't you leave me alone now?". Of course, the scene would grow even more awkward after that.
Do people who try to make a shy person talk realize how useless their effort is? Unless tormenting a weaker victim who won't defend himself is the purpose.

What I have learned from my experience as I got older is that people react more to anxiety than to silence. I have partly overcome my shyness and I am far less anxious than I used to be. I still am very quiet around people, but I am serene most of the time.
Maybe, as I'm older now, people won't dare to say I'm shy or stuff, for anything an adult does, as long as it's not really wierd, tends to be taken more seriously than the same thing done by a child or a teenager.

Usually, I feel well around shy people, for we leave each other alone. Unlike many people, I don't consider silence awkward, but relaxing.