People with SA are the nicest people I've ever known...

mariatherese

I'm new here. Just been going through a lot of posts, and I suddenly noticed something. Of all the forums I've ever visited, this has to be full of the nicest people ever! Everyone is so kind and thoughtful. It seems like all everyone wants is just to be loved, to be noticed.

I wonder if all of us with SA are like this... like little hidden gems... I wonder if maybe we are the way we are because we have such sensitive hearts in the first place. Maybe that is one positive thing about having SA- it means we have a big heart. Smile

Maybe if the world took the chance to get to know us, they'd realize that. But, I guess they're just missing out, eh?

Well, just wanted to share that little observation. I hope it brightens someones day! Smile

Incognito · Newbie User Joined: Apr 16, 2008 Posts: 45

Thank you maria. The reason why everyone is so nice is because we all understand each other. We've always felt alone in this and it's great to find out you have plenty of company. Wink

4seasons · Advanced User Joined: Apr 12, 2007 Posts: 370

One of the best threads I've read on here so far. Good way to look at it, from a positive perspective. Maybe if we all think more like this it well help with depression, and from that who knows.....maybe it will help with actual SA to. I'm going to try to think like this from now on. Thanks.

recluse · Posted: Fri Apr 25, 2008 5:53 am Post subject:

I think that people perceive me as too nice at times because i lack assertion, but i am a moody person and i can snap at people.

Richey · Expert User Joined: Sep 28, 2005 Posts: 712

Its very true what you say, i think there is an element of sincereity and understanding of being non prejudice and trying to help people ..

many forums have cliques and are rather snobbish and its harder to feel apart of the group unless your an expert ...

mustang · Posted: Fri Apr 25, 2008 6:26 am Post subject:

In real life - My personal opinion on S.A. is I 'appear' very nice, but it's mostly due to the fear of repercussions or negative evaluation. Unfortunately, on the inside I'm a pretty rude and selfish person.

Atlantis · Newbie User Joined: Jan 09, 2008 Posts: 70

Yeah. I tend to be perceive as a very sympathetic person too because of my SA I guess, as all of you are as well.

Everyone has their weakenesses and strenghts, so we should use this when we need. I think this is not a illusion, like if we just "appear" very nice like mustang said. We are like that, we just act rudely sometimes due to anxiousity, if thats the case.

If you can't suceed in social situations you learn humility and that shows up as "being nice".

That is something we gain due to a great cost which is SA.

Kien · Posted: Fri Apr 25, 2008 2:14 pm Post subject:

Blonderedhead is wonderful person. :}

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miss_amy · Intermediate User Joined: Nov 21, 2007 Posts: 233

Everyone is still really scary to me! Its in my nature or maybe my SA to feel incredibly wary of everyone.

Though I found nearly everyone very nice and friendly. I crept in to the chat room a couple of evenings ago and was welcomed with lots of warmth and patience. Its really helped my mood lift so thank you all.

Its odd what has been said about moods and snapping, that decribes me too. I'm a mouse but when the pressure builds I have a snapping point. I keep quiet but when I snap I snap big time.

princess_haru · Posted: Fri Apr 25, 2008 4:42 pm Post subject: